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#1 Jul 3 - 4PM
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Sh-t Eatin' Grin

You know the one I'm talking about? It's always at an inappropriate time to be smiling, but it's like the cat just ate the mouse.

Example:

I was going on vacation to visit my parents and leading up to it I was sooo excited and expressed it to my N. I told him all the things I was going to do. Everyone of which he had to make a little jab at.

My last day of work I was counting the hours til I was going to get to leave and I thought it would be so much fun to see him before I left.

I called and left a message and not only did he not answer, he never even called back.

When I returned I think I saw him at work the following day and of course he was all happy and immediately asked, "How was your vaca?" Completely dismissing the fact that he intentionally ignored me.

I had stewed in hatred for him the whole time I was there because he never bothered to even call me back. I did enjoy myself though, but not without him being background music throughout.

It wasn't until a conversation that I had with him months later that I told him how much it upset me.

No sooner than the words left my mouth and reached his ears this shit eating grin appeared on his face.

It wasn't until then that I realized that was exactly what he was hoping for. To upset me and make me unhappy so that I wouldn't thoroughly enjoy myself. He was so jealous of someone having a good time he had to try to ruin it.

The smile was such a give away and I have seen it in other instances where a smile is a totally inappropriate response.

After that I made sure I never again let him know when he hurt me because instead of making him feel apologetic, it only made him stronger, happier.

Have any of you had this experience?

Jul 4 - 6AM
Lobo555
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CharlieSheenWinning takes

CharlieSheenWinning takes pleasure in using the shit-eating grin to torment exes. He's a true woman-hater. He's told me about sitting next to his ex-wife in a pub and using the grin on her when she turned and saw it was him. She HATES him. He also used it on another ex when she accused him of cheating (which I'm sure he did). I see the shit-eating grin in my future. Especially since I was the one to break things off. However, I'll know it for exactly what it is and, unlike the ex-wife who bristled and moved her seat or the ex-girlfriend who got angry, I'll pretend like it doesn't matter. This site is SO helpful in that it makes me recognize his behavior for what it is. It also helps me to know how to react -- or, NOT react -- to him. CharlieSheenWinning will be bringing a knife to gun fight. Best part? He has no idea I'm on to him.
Jul 4 - 5PM (Reply to #5)
Susan32
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Use the smile yourself!

You can (a) pretend it doesn't matter or (b) HAVE THAT SMILE ON YOURSELF FOR THAT MATTER. During the final D&D, I was a crying, hysterical wreck. I'd go around the campus in tears. But AFTER I met the girlfriend&figured out the ex-Psych prof, I was strutting around with that sh*t-eating grin, ESPECIALLY because the ex-P assumed I'd attempt or commit suicide because of his rejection. I didn't just want him to be defeated. I wanted his defeat TO HURT. Use the sh*t-eating grin on your ex-Narc, and he'll be unnerved, because it did MINE. When I pulled that grin, it put the ex-P into a tailspin/nervous wreck. When I smiled... he saw my shiny pearly whites (unlike his decaying ones) Have a smile so radiant he'll go blind.
Jul 3 - 5PM
sadlymistaken
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Oh man...it's the story of my life! :(

I FINALLY get it. We project our goodness onto them. I care when someone hurts, or is disappointed, etc. So when people tell me something hurts them, if remotely possible I will stop doing it. When we tell them our hurts and fears-they ALWAYS use them against us. Thus, I told these evil assholes every single wound to stick the knife in and twist. God how did I not see they enjoyed harming me? The thought of getting off on making someone else hurt is just so out of my realm of comprehension that I couldn't fathom another human being acting this way. And HUMANS don't act this way. Demons do. If I knew they were intentionally trying to harm me-it wouldn't have harmed me! Now that I know there are people who just love to argue and upset people, I can laugh at them and walk away. They're not that hard to spot. I was soooooooooooooo niave! :(
Jul 5 - 12AM (Reply to #3)
Littleone
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Sadly mistaken

You were not naive, how were you to know that such deliberate evil exists? Especially from someone you love!! I had a very severe case of anorexia about ten years ago. I was hospitalized twice and my parents were told I might die because it was so severe. I battled for life and beat the awful disease. It was the hardest fight of my life. The n knew about all this. He knew what had caused it etc and how bad I had been. Yet he called me fat several times a day and made fun of my body. Isn't that the lowest of the low!! If I ever dieted to lose a little bit of weight, he said- I hope you don't go anorexic again. He said the same thing in his final d & d. But the best part is - it didn't work. I battled a raging demon when I fought anorexia, it is dead. His words didn't touch me quite how he wanted them too. They just made me feel a bit shit. Still, I wonder if he would have called me fat (I wasn't) if I hadn't told him about my anorexia?
Jul 3 - 4PM
Susan32
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All the time

When the ex-Psych prof mocked me in class after my grandfather's death, he had that kind of smile on his face. He'd smile like that when he had pulled a fast one on me. He smiled that way A LOT during the final D&D.... except there were times he looked absolutely frustrated&exasperated, like a parent of a toddler who hasn't had a good night's sleep. He smiled that whenever I was crying. I did the MAJOR table-turning on him, however, after the final D&D. I was smiling, he was raging, he snapped, "STOP SMILING!" but I became like the Cheshire Cat. I could've vanished, and my smile would've stayed. He HATED seeing me happy, he'd call it an "idiotic grin." He'd reproach me for having a "smile in my voice." If I ever saw the ex-P again, I'd make sure *I* would have the sh*t-eating grin, NOT him!!!