Sexually objectifying

In the 10 months of being with my crazy ass Narc, I went from being a beautiful sexy woman and had normal sex to a nasty c*nt who he wanted to tie up and beat my privates with his belt as "punishment". Oh and since I had a LD relationship with mine where much of our sex was all talk for hours on the phone, he usually insisted that I was naked and obv ready for "play" when he called me. In fact those were his "orders" I stupidly went along with his demands in order to make him happy....silly....silly....me. But in a lot of ways RELIEVED when I ended it and went into NC, I had a sigh of relief that he never did get to beat me! In fact he used to send me pics of himself with a belt or of his manlihood wth the belt. Talk about Whacked out of his mind. xx NJC

Mine used to go at me like a bull in a china shop. At first I thought we were having rough passionate sex - but after a while I'd have to tell him to slow down. He looked possessed sometimes - as if someone else was in his body having sex with me (his true self) - his eyes would also roll into the back of his head - PSYCHO! When he came it was like nothing mattered apart from that and he was so over the top with his sound effects. He pull a weird face euugghhhh

You can read my story on my profile as I was with my N sexually only one time. You'd think that I would have caught all the red flags up to that event (can see them so clearly now...) but it was being intimate that really had me saying "OMG...what is wrong with this guy?" It follows along with what the majority of women are saying on this website (which is a godsend). He was selfish, just wanted to "get off" on using my body. It was mechanical. No loving/holding/tenderness afterward. He was distant and even had the crazed eye look that you read about -- like he was in a trance and/or imagining I was someone else...hmmmm....maybe a porn start ?? LOL In fact, not only was it like that, but (hopefully this isn't too much..just hope it helps someone else) he begged for anal sex twice that night. I wouldn't give in as it was the first and only time we were together. OMG...that makes me think he's gotten women to do this for him right away. Oh....guess I went off on this...yes....this was the MAJOR red flag to me that he is wack.

Yes Swan...Yes. I didn't realize that I was only a sexual object to him at first though. You see...he had to woo me, seduce me first with those words, charm, charisma. Told me he wanted to know what was in my head, what made me tick (red flag i missed). Then...after we were intimate, all I was to him were parts/pieces of my body, not the whole person. When he felt that I was getting distant from him, he would blow all hot and bring on the charm. Furthermore, he would brag about how great he was with other women, detailing their encounters and how he could bring women to new heights of pleasure. He absolutely loved himself, and he felt it was his calling to bring that pleasure to as many women he could. He would tell me that having a beautiful woman on his arm made him feel like a stud. That a wife "has" to have sex with her husband, but having another woman want him was to mean that she found him attractive and WANTED to be with him, not HAD to. When any woman showed him even a tiny bit of attention, he actually thought that woman wanted him. His ego is ginormous. I guess what bothers me about this is the fact that for me...I cannot be intimate without having feelings for the other person. So, when we were physical, it was not just sex for me. The last time I spoke with my guy was right after being intimate with him. I never heard from him since. 3 weeks ago today. I guess for him it was "just sex". Who knew that loving kiss goodbye meant a goodbye forever.

I've been an object since I first met him....and every single text I ever received has referred to parts of me. He never says he wants to have sex with me...he says, he wants to have his way with my "insert words for front and back". I honestly think they cannot deal with us as people...it terrifies them to have that level of intimacy. Much easier to leave/replace an object than it is to do that to a person.

yes he treated me this way and I also felt it carried over into dressing me he used me like his personal playground/jungle gym and he liked ropes and leather straps i very much felt objectified in a variety of ways but during those times I wanted so much to please him and I guess I didn whatever I could to make him happy and it wasn't good enough

funny you should mention that, my narc did not do any porn until he lost me,now on the internet doing cybersex while he gets off to computer women, has major Ed problems, how pathetic when he could of had the real deal,me.I once felt like a sex object way before i knew anything about NPD, I was just a sex blow up doll for him to masturbate in, but at least he was the nicest then, because he liked oral sex so much and he got the best of me, his loss now.........