Self worth

I have been on the forum for a little while now and have found quite a bit of help here. I have learned much about narcissism and also much about myself. The one thing I have noticed over time, is that same question, worded differently, but yet still the same, asking why.

The answer is pretty cut and dry actually. Narcs prey on loving, giving people. Only loving, giving people. That is us. And what we can take away from that answer speaks volumes to us or will one day.

We are valuable to society and must never forget that. Without people like us, who possess goodness, compassion for mankind, loving hearts, the world would be more unbalanced than it already is. Narcs victimize us, but it doesn't have to remain that way. Think of it as being knocked down, we get back up, we are survivors.

I notice questions, wondering what they are doing now that we are no longer their supply? And we wonder if they are happy without us. They are not, nor were they when they were with us. It is impossible for them to feel happiness, only possible for them to portray it. Big difference.

We are wonderful human beings, each and every one of us. We should be proud of ourselves for who we are. We carry a strength within us that a lot of people don't. The strength to survive. Think about it, how many more victims are out there that haven't even begun to research this dreaded disorder and the affects it had on them? Many, I can assure you. I personally know of at least five. They have accepted what has happened to them, are are beaten down. We have not, will not, and want to survive, become strong again and strive.

That my friends, speaks volumes to me! Each and every one of you have sought to heal. That is pretty darn impressive in my book. So the next time you wonder what your narc is doing now, or whether he/she misses you................turn it around and remind yourself of all the valuable, wonderful things that your narc is missing about you! Because they are truly the ones that have lost, not us! It was them that was fortunate to have us, not the other way around.

From where I am sitting, their loss, our gain.

Stay strong, heal, and when you come out of all of this, you will find yourself still intact and better than ever. This I can promise!