Seeing Through the Narc's Seduction

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Seeing Through the Narc's Seduction

Hi

It's raining ALL day today where I live. Inside and pretty restless today

so reading and found this article was creeped me out!

*****Narcissistic Men-Psychologically Seduced by Their Narcissistic Mothers**********

From: blog.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Narcissistic men are always on the prowl, the search for the perfect woman. She must be beautiful, even ultra-gorgeous, adoring of him, compliant and willing to be manipulated and follow his orders. There are many women in this category who have made this decision to put their lives and destinies in absolute alignment with a narcissistic partner. The psychological truth about the nature of narcissistic men and their attitude toward women is the reverse from the image that is perpetuated.

When the narcissistic mother chooses a son as the perfect child, the answer to all of her dreams, this is fateful for her child's life and for every woman with whom this budding narcissist will have a partnership or marriage. There is a deep psychopathology between narcissistic mothers and their chosen sons. Although there is no literal seduction in most cases of the son, the narcissistic mother is erotically and psychologically fused with him. In these family constellations, the husband has been neutered by the narcissistic wife. These women keep their spouses around for image purposes and the lifestyle and secure financial arrangements.

The narcissistic mother does not make a distinction that he is separate from her. She possesses him like an indispensable object. Architect Frank Lloyd Wright's mother referred to her son as her Prince. This is the classic role of the chosen narcissistic son. The enmeshed son is flattered by this form of adoration and feels an enhanced ego as a result of his mother's extraordinary attentions. Beneath the surface in the unconscious the narcissistic son despises his mother for harnessing him to her. Another byproduct of this use of the son as an object of adoration and psychological imprisonment is the narcissist's hatred of women in general which originates from their fear of women. Much of this comes from the primal narcissistic mother's pulling the puppet strings of her son's life. He has become her creation.

Inside these narcissistic sons are empty, feel restless, enraged and worthless. They have never been allowed to develop as authentic human beings. The psychological seduction by the narcissistic mother foments a hatred of her that lies deep in the unconscious of the narcissistic son.The narcissistic mother never allows her son to become a real man. She severely damages his manhood with her erotic promise of complete psychological fusion. This is devastating to the narcissist. The emasculated narcissistic son spends his life taking advantage of women--wooing them, seducing them, discarding them--one right after the other. He cheats on women, treats them with disrespect, uses them as objects and eclipses their lives. The narcissistic mother's damage to her son lives long after her in the ravaging effects the narcissist has on every woman that he brings into his life. Learn to identify and deal with narcissistic men and narcissistic women

Seeing Through the Narcissist's Seduction

From: blog.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Narcissists, especially those who are high level and very successful in the world, are exquisitely gifted at the art of seduction. The narcissist puts his/her romantic sights on the individual of his choosing to become the perfect partner. In the wooing stage there is nothing the narcissist won't do for the intended. He gives the impression of being able to read your mind: your deepest wishes and longings. There is a place inside of each person that is emotionally vulnerable. Those who are unaware of their psychological weakness and personal proclivities are fair game for a narcissist on the hunt.

The opening rounds of the narcissist's choreography reads like a modern fairy tale. He anticipates all of your needs and is prepared to have them come true right before your eyes. Many find themselves loosing control, becoming giddy and overwhelmed by the narcissist's attentions--his/her overly generous gift giving and special attention. It is at this point that the party pursued by the narcissist can still make an early, safe exit from the tightening noose of this pathological relationship. After this phase comes psychological possession.

The narcissist is fusing with you. He/she views you as his possession. At first being possessed by someone who adores you and will give you anything you want and beyond is the answer to every wish you have ever had. This is the bait and the open trap that is awaiting you. As the narcissist's secures the possession phase you have less and less control over your life, your thoughts, your behaviors, your feelings, your decisions. Individuals who have lived independently before meeting a stealthy narcissist, confess that they were seduced. They could not resist.

Learn to recognize the signs of the narcissist's clever moves.

If it's too good to be true, believe it.

If the promises and attentions are over the top, take heed. Listen to yourself and especially your intuition. Study the narcissist in all of his/her in detail and depth so that when one of these individuals walks into your life, you will recognize him very quickly. It is possible to have a keen sense, like a scent of narcissism that you pick up in a person. This kind of knowing together with your research will protect you from the infamous narcissistic seduction. To learn about every facet of the narcissistic personality,

. Visit website:
thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Jul 23 - 4PM
Hunter
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BADA

Did you post this Just for me? My Narc is Bad but his Mother... Over the top. Thanks
Jul 23 - 2PM
girlsinger
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Ok ..BADA B

Hi There precious One great article, Thanks for sharing, this was indeed my life with EXDrN hey, ok so its raining,BB so what? call a pal put on your boots and get out in it!..Ok Life is in session! and waiting for you,today be blessed K
Jul 23 - 11AM
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This is xnh to a "T". His

This is xnh to a "T". His mommy even goes so far as to announce that xnh is her "favorite" in front her other three "children". I say "children" VERY loosely here, because xnh's youngest sibling is almost 40 years old. This really sick and twisted relationship with mother and son can also apparently surface between a father and daughter. Xnh's relationship with his mommy is very emotionally incestuous. They behave more like lovers than mother/son. Xnh's father is a complete workaholic. "These women keep their spouses around for image purposes and the lifestyle and secure financial arrangements." really applies to xnh's mommy and her husband. He's only there to provide the money she wants. Other than that, he's mostly absent. She already has an emotional lover...xnh. He, also, has one in his mommy. There was NO room in any marriage emotionally for a wife. Xnh was already spoken for by his mommy LONG before I ever met him. In addition, xnh's relationship with his oldest (grossly favored) hideous P daughter is every bit as emotionally incestuous as the one with his mommy (maybe more than "emotionally" by this time for I know - and I really don't want to know). The way those two have always behaved towards each other is totally revolting. I used to get very upset when I'd wake up on weekend mornings to find xnh laying in his hideous P daughter's bed with her. He would be stroking her hair, and kissing her face like they were lovers. She was 18 years old the last time I caught him doing this. Of course, when I confronted him, he told me, "She's my daughter. It's ONLY natural. You're making something out of it that isn't there!" No. I wasn't. When I think back to when I was 18 years old, I would have been SO shocked and grossed out if my dad had crawled into bed with me and started cuddling (and trust me, it would have NEVER occurred to my dad to ever do ANYTHING remotely like it). Uck. Uck. Uck. These are narcs are VERY twisted, damaged people.

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