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#1 Jun 7 - 8AM
narcissizednomore
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Saw the N downtown

As I was pulling out of a parking lot, he came around the corner of a building, walking. We glanced at each other and he was likely as surprised as me. In the past, he has done a good job of pretending to not see me, if he sees me first and just waits for me to make the first move. This time, we both know we saw each other.

It's been one year NC. I quickly turned my head and drove onto the street with my heart racing. Had such a creepy feeling come over me.

So glad I was in my car. Minutes earlier I was walking the same the area he was so it was a close one. Can't help but wonder if I could have done the big ignore so easily if I was standing near him.

I must say it felt good to 'pretend' he didn't exist and to not acknowledge him with a wave or anything. I hope he is learning what the word 'forever' means and he does not attempt to contact me again.

Please delete me from your brain psycho boy so I can live in peace and freedom.

Jun 7 - 6PM
Lobo555
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WinningRedLight

I saw CharlieSheenWinning at a traffic light -- we were both stopped and neither could move because we both had the red. He knew I was there, I knew he was there. Longest light EVER. And, of course, he's in his car with NewWinningWife. Lawd. Why, when they could live in her apt in a whole different state, do they insist on living *here*??? He doesn't even have a place here -- they crash on his best friend's couch. *winning* I dread the inevitable face-to-face encounter. He'll probably try the triangulation ploy between me and NewWinningWife. I won't bite that bad chum.
Jun 7 - 1PM
nancyh
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Good for you! As for running

Good for you! As for running into him face 2 face - plan now what you will do and practice it so when & if you do see him in person it comes as second nature to you to just ignore and walk away or do whatever it is you want. Practice makes perfect. Admittedly my first thought when you said you were in your car when you saw him was that you ran him over and I found myself smiling (ug I have reached a new low). Keep up the good work! Nan

Nan

Jun 7 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
wacaet
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I had the same thought, run

Congratulations on a successful escape! I had the same thought, run him over! The company I work for has the opportunity to bid some work for a company my narc works at sometimes (he is sent to various places as a software engineer). I told my boss I really don't want us to work there because of the N and he said "I doubt we'd run into him" and I said "I want us to run OVER him"!
Jun 7 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
narcissizednomore
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Run him over...

Wacaet and Nan...yes, the thought did cross my mind to do just that and almost had the chance too. If I had just been a few seconds slower he would have been crossing in front of my car and I could have nailed him. LOL Actually I would have liked to see the fear in his face as he walked in front of my car. Though, he probably would have just loved to have me stare at him for a while. He would have been nervous though for sure. So insecure when they are not in control of a situation and they aren't getting a reaction from anyone. Twice in the past two years, he has cut in front of me coming around a corner into the street I am driving on. I've had to tap my brakes to avoid him. Is that not someone looking for attention any way they can get it? Obviously he was very amused by his actions just as a typical N or psycho would be. Again, I just had to stick with ignoring him and not call him up and ask why or give him hell or anything. Very frustrating to bite ones tongue when someone does something so bizarre. I must admit, all the behaviours are just more validation for the disorder and helps me to move on.

narcissizednomore

Jun 7 - 9AM
Hunter
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Wahoooooo

Pass the word along here! " forever" Hunter
Jun 7 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
narcissizednomore
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yes, Hunter

The word 'forever' is one we must accept, embrace, and own. N's can't seem to do that. Therefore, we win. We make the changes in our lives since they can't. It's a whole different game for them when we hold on to the concept of No Contact. Hugs!!

narcissizednomore