Sarcasm and Friend Stealing and Very Forward Questions.

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#1 Sep 21 - 1PM
whatever2009
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Sarcasm and Friend Stealing and Very Forward Questions.

Did you guys find sarcasm is a BIG part of there day to day. My N is sarcastic all day, he would make little comments all the time. They never really made any sense and it seemed as tho he was trying to be funny, however as time went by the sarcasm got worse and more forward. For example if his hair started getting longer and I would ask when he was getting a haircut, he would say something stupid like, "im just growing it so I look like so and so, and then you wont have to travel so much looking for dudes"....just weird stuff.

Also my N would ask very forward questions...if I went on vacation with my girlfriends when I called he would say, "what are the guys like" "did you get drunk and act like a slut" or if Im out overnight somewhere he would call first thing in the morning saying....Good Morning, dont you have to check out soon, I just called to see how you are, enjoy yourself. I would then sit there trying to
figure out the intention of that call.

And then the friend stealing, he would make a point to try and hang out with people I knew. And then wanna tell me all about it. Mainly guys Ive known for years. He would make a point of telling them how I was his girl, but would do it in creepy way, like bring up my name in reference to something.

Anyone else experience this??????

Sep 21 - 6PM
cupcake (not verified)
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Forward questions and boundaries

Mine too! When I frst met him, I hardly knew him and he wanted to know how many sexual partners I had, where I lived (to the street - I didn't even know this man) and I found it weird. When we agreed to meet up he wanted straight away to come over to my house for dinner. It's like there was no normal dating/courting stage he wanted to jump straight in. And he would say things like - what will you be wearing etc. Why didn't I jut kick him to the kurb where he belonged. THEN he would ask in his own nice way - would he get any naked action? THis before we met up. Big red flag looking back. His behviour is totally inappropriate and weird. And abnormal. This posts helps so much - let's talk more of abnormal behvaiour and how inhuman they are! He definietely pushed boundaries but if had a need or stepped into his space - massive D&D time yet he was allowed to ask me questions about my past experiences and personal questions. It was not appropriate!
Sep 21 - 6PM
James (not verified)
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Drilling to the Core

Once thing that I have learned about those that suffer from a cluster B personality disorder is at the core they are all of them very very insecure. It’s this insecurity that colors everything about them. Example would be like a NPD who is always insecure about the true self and is very protective about the fake self. BPD are very insecure about their relationships which show up during and after the relationship ends. PPD (personality paranoid personality) are insecure about everything and constantly look for real and/or unreal dangers. ASPD are insecure and must have power over other people albeit to cheat lie steal and/or kill them to hide their insecure feelings. What greater power then the life over someone else? And of course the list goes on and on. So insecurity is always at the core of each of these personality disorders. This insecurity also explains the need to put others below their level making them feel “more secure” and superior. No doubt this insecurity is something they all learned very early in life and now bring it into any type of relationship they go on to have. http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/
Sep 21 - 2PM
whatever2009
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jerks.

They are so crazy, everything they do is CRAZY. The way the talk, act, walk, breathe, think...etcectectect is crazy. The need to control, and the underlying manipulation is sickening. My N would use my emotional/physically abusive childhood, to play on my insecurities and keep me around. Also he would always tell me that I could tell him anything and the reason he gets mad at me is because he is trying to show me that I dont need to be scared/guarded anymore. Meanwhile he would just use that so I would beleive that he loved me and wanted me around. Truth is he needed me, I make him look good. ugh! I could vomit!
Sep 21 - 1PM
Barbara (not verified)
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yes!

ALL of that sounds like Psycho-Boy. He thinks he's clever and intelligent... his whole blog is NOTHING but poorly worded & spelled sarcasm. He tried to steal my friends, turn them against me, especially the women - so he could sleep with them. And the VERY forward questions. Yes. But god forbid he answer my simple ones. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Sep 21 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
dolce (not verified)
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friend stealing

It got to where it was easier for me not to have any friends. Sad, but true. And sarcasm. Yes! ~Free to Be~