Sam Vaknin

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#1 May 15 - 5PM

Ladydb123

Sam Vaknin

This may be a question for Lisa E. is he a good resourse? Some sites say - Yes and Some say - No. Does he give good information? Is he a certified authority? So much of what I have read fits the Narc disorder. Does he offer anything else?

Anyone with any information or experience would be greatly appreciated. He is a Man.

Hugs and Thank You's to any reply. I keep reading!!!

#2 May 16 - 4PM

Ladydb123

Thanks to All

I appreciate all replies. I do feel that a reply from Lisa would be great for us all as well, when her time permits. I don't care for his vidoes, (He creeps me out) :-) but many of his articles on-line have been very informative and have hit home with me and my situation with Patho/Narc. I have also read and been told by Therapist that many are recovering from their own personal knowledge and experiences..... Yes, wisdom from the horse's mouth.....however I feel it is a good thing to checkout and validate your resources. My right brain and left brain have been working overtime with Narc study and some other personal family issues. So, thanks again to my new and earning trust new friends and support system at Lisa E.

#3 May 16 - 3PM

michele115 (not verified)

Ladydb123

Regarding your inquiry being addressed to Lisa, she announced that she's just started working a very demanding job and is still working in whatever free moments she has getting the book launched and trying to follow up on the forum as much as humanly possible. I spoke with Lisa over the weekend but before I happened upon this post. I just wish to advise you that silence from Lisa on this end is not a sign of ignoring you but given her hours which are very long, she needs a bit of time to catch up. I am confident she will respond, but I think she would not resent my speaking for her in asking that you be patient while she tries to catch up as I know she takes every member's concerns seriously and would not want to be misunderstood as not concerned or uninterested in members questions, its just that she has a ton on her plate right now and a bit backlogged. Hugs!

#4 May 16 - 11PM (Reply to #9)

Lisa E. Scott

Sam V.

Thanks Michele! I really appreciate the comments you made and agree with your thoughts on the subject. Hunter is right: "Understanding It" is a big part of recovery and Sam Vaknin is great at helping us understand the behavior of a Narcissist because he is a self-professed Narcissist himself. If it weren't for Vaknin's work, I would probably still be banging my head against the wall in a marriage that confused, demoralized, frustrated and drove me to the edge of my sanity on a daily basis. I'm not kidding, Vaknin's writing saved my sanity. My ex-husband joked about being a Narcissist back in 1995. Unfortunately, it took me 8 years to look into the true meaning of narcissism and when I did, it changed my life. Where did I find this info? Yep, that's right - Sam Vaknin. He was the only person writing about this topic in pop culture at the time. I will forever be grateful to Sam for opening my eyes and helping me understand there's nothing I can do to change my narc. I have thanked Sam profusely, but he openly says that he does not do any of this to help people. I believe he does it to educate others and I respect that. and like Hunter said: "Being here, therapy, reading, and time will get you to a better place." If you're here, you're already on the path to recovery! Sorry I'm not on the forum much lately, but I went back to work and obviously cannot manage this site during the day. If it's urgent, please send me a Private Message or e-mail. I'm always here for you. xoxo

#5 May 17 - 7AM (Reply to #10)

Ladydb123

Lisa, Lisa

Thank You, thank you. Hugs, From Ladydb

#6 May 16 - 2PM

Happy1

I watch his videos and read

I watch his videos and read his articles. I find them to be very imformative.

#7 May 16 - 6AM

onwithmylife

Ladydb123

I bought Vaknin's book , Maligiant Self Love,way back when and the book was a lifesaver, even if he is a Narc, it is seeing it through his eyes so important and how they operate, it helped me tremendously...

#8 May 15 - 7PM

michele115 (not verified)

I agree with hunter

Anyone you feel you can relate to, and find what resonates with you as truth is "good" it is known he's a Narc, there have been many a discussion of him here...good/bad support/boycott. Like anything else, it is a personal decision. He's open about his narcissism many feel that he's earning supply just diverting the methods by which he gets it. I read that he's actually a psychopath but narcissism is one of the more damaging criteria with that rx. There is also a documentary I Psychopath. It Shows him in action - it's on you tube. I guess at the end of the day, it's what you decide about him. Most of us have come across him...I think it would be safe to say that no one has criticized or discounted anything he's had to say, more than perhaps questioning his motivation and what some seem to feel is his exploiting victims further by the sheer using of his audience as supply. My personal opinion, I find most of what he's had to say accurate, and who better would know how the mind of a sick individual would work other than a disordered individual. As per "certified" authority...hmmmm - I'd have to say that there are many with a bunch of letters after their names and all kinds of licenses and they still haven't a clue of how to break it down for us or help us...LOL but that's the jaded side of me lashing out... Hugs!

#9 May 15 - 6PM

heritage

i watch his vifeos and read

i watch his vifeos and read his site daily. he is on the money with everything. i have learned so much from him.

#10 May 15 - 6PM

Hunter

Lady

I've read he is a narc himself. He admits he has abused his wife, cheated, and cant be cured. I read and watch a lot of him. I think he is spot on. Don't you think with anyone say, Freud for eg., some would say he's a quack others not? I think Mr Sam is worth the read. Just my 2 cents :) Hunter

#11 May 15 - 7PM (Reply to #2)

Ladydb123

Hunter Thank You

We click on stuff, I am curious too buy my nature and wanting to understand somepart of who they are. I believe that SamK was describing himself very well, a full blown Narc. I watched his video's on Facebook and he uses words and phases very well; that make me think again. I and the seasoned think he is worth the read and getting educated, have not seen Sam offer any recorvey advice. Lisa E. and the seasoned ones are my help......

#12 May 15 - 7PM (Reply to #3)

Hunter

Sam V

Part of recovery is understanding. He does a good job of that. I recently had a conversation with my narc. If I didn't understand what he is I would have had a difficult time with that. In fact that conversation was laughable, the more I think about it. :) He's fucked up himself, a narc offering recovery advice, probably not going to happen. Being here, therapy, reading, and time will get you to a better place. Be Strong Hunter

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