Reversed NC
Reversed NC
I spent 8 yrs with this man, 5 of them married. Sacrificed so much to be together, as did he.....For a long while, it seemed so perfect. Except once married, the wonderful sex came to a screeching halt. Little by little, everything he had shared with us, he was taking it back...
Not quite 4 months yet since we split, but I'm wondering......how the hell to get over this?
He left me for a married woman, another marriage he has wrecked. He is an undiagnosed malignant narcissist bipolar psychopath! He obviously covets what other people have. I suspect strongly that he was sexually abused by his mother.
Before we married, he did the boomerang thing...here gone here gone...but has been pretty consistent while we've been married.(although he was screwing around too)
This is what sounds odd to me compared to all of you..., he is treating me with NC? And the children?
I'm a dependent spouse, which is what he wanted....and can't instantly change that now. When I have an issue, he doesn't reply to email. I've only tried to call him 4 times the entire time he's been gone, and he doesn't answer his phone for me? It's always been important, or I wouldn't call. IF it is an email or message that is concerning HIM, of course, that is an instant reply. I had two kids when he pursued me, and he has been a father to them for 8 years. He doesn't contact them either. Am I crazy? Or do you guys think this is normal? I know he's moved on, and that's okay. We still have issues though, and will until after the divorce.
All the pain and humiliation we have endured because of him, and then he treats us with NC? I think he has probably done a lot of projecting...His family, his business associates, all the people we knew together, and no one has contacted me to see how the boys or myself are doing? When we first split, his family told me they knew there was something wrong with him, but they hoped me and the boys would have changed him? Hello? No one told me! Just wondering what any of you can make of this? I don't want him back. I'm not stalking. Am actually becoming more and more at peace without him...........though of course, I get lonely..and am afraid for our future. Can even a psychopath just move on and actually erase and forget two young people that adored him? I'm sorry. I don't find this human! Don't suppose anyone can tell me what to do. You can't tell me NC. haha Just wondering if you've ever heard of this before? I'm not sure what to make of it.............
gullablegull.....me too
Aceonelady
The damage they do
N marry N?
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