Remind me please.....

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#1 Oct 8 - 12PM

brokenglass

Remind me please.....

Remind me with our birthdays and the holidays comming that he really ISNT as happy as he pretends to be...that even if he is happy that it's all an act.

Remind me that after 10 years together and being Devalued, Discarded and Destroyed that SOME guilt will eat away at him.

Remind me that although he is living this great life now 8 months after my D & D that he will screw this one up too.

Remind me that his "fawning" over the new pregnant wife that he's just using her for attention making him look like the good guy.

Remind me that because he married 3 months out from dumping me like a hot potato the pressure to "make it work" so that he dosent look like an idiot will be like a pressure cooker and he will explode in time

Remind me that in time the new wife will get tired of being the bread winner (he only works part time as a doorman at a gay and lesbian club)

Remind me that the family functions are all a facade.

Remind me that all the pretences are for not, and his true colors are going to come out.

Remind me that he has NOT become the man he always promised me he would be all those years.

Remind me that his FIRST wife divorced him for fraud for a reason.

Remind me that his SECOND wife (and mother of his first born) divorced him for lying and stealing for a reason.

Remind me that when my finances ran out and it was not "luqrative" to be with me anymore he dumped me and moved on to greener pastures because he's a selfish prick.

Remind me that Karma works...

#2 Oct 9 - 11AM

Susan32

The karma bus

I remember feeling like I got a kick in the gut when a year after the D&D I read that the ex-Psych professor had married his curator girlfriend, and she had his twins. They tied the knot a couple of months before she had the babies. I also read that the ex-P's parents had moved in with him to raise his kids. MOST of the professors who had kids relied on nannies (students),daycare, or their wives taking the mommy track. That was 9 years ago.... Honestly... I don't know if the ex-P and OW are still married. I don't care. I remembered joking to a friend how the ex-P would voice his dislike of the elderly and young kids, and now he had to deal with BOTH in his new house.

#3 Oct 9 - 2AM

brokenglass

You guys are great!!

I got home from work and read all your posts....they were awesome! THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. I'm still a "newbie" as far as time away, so some days its still really hard. You see, every morning I wake up I'm reminded of what he did to me. Because I wake up in the room my daughter rents in a house. I share a room with my daughter.........UGH! Talk about humiliated!!! I'm eternally grateful for her being there the best way she can for me, I love her to pieces, but my ego gets shattered every morning when I realize what I've been reduced to. See, I was in the mortgage industry for over 20 years. I was living on my own, a fully furnished 1 bedroom apt, a car, credit cards, a FICO score that actually had THREE numbers (lol) lots of friends, hobbies (OMG IM GETTING PISSED AGAIN!) "big sigh"......ok, sorry.....anyway, I had a decent life. And it's bad enough that I was emotionally manipulated for 10 years...but now I've not only been destroyed emotionally, but financially as well...at the ripe age of 51 (soon to be 52) I am starting over with two suitcases of clothes and a job at a retail store..... I'm trying to stay positive, and say to myself "ok, well then just think of all the NEW stuff I get to buy!!" woo hoo!!! And that's good in itself, its just that I shouldn't HAVE to ya know? At least if I had the furniture and stuff I could have SOLD it to help me financially. HE didn't buy it, WE didn't buy it...I bought it. ME!! Before I met him. So it wasn't his place to keep it or throw it away.... It might not be a good idea waiting for the Karma bus (that was cute by the way, made me smile) but it's the only thing that keeps my feet on the ground and focused. I have to believe it karma. I don't care how it affects him, I just want his world to fall apart..I'll know it was karma, and that in itself will be enough to put a smile on my face and leave me feeling vindicated.... Just a little vindication. To make up for how hard I'm struggling while he sits there with his new wifey, all prego, in there nicely furnished apartment, with babies on the way, being all "father knows best" and crap... I just hope the Karma bus isn't too far down the road.

#4 Oct 9 - 8AM (Reply to #10)

MsVulcan500

You were her once. He was

You were her once. He was "in love" with you, he was "so happy", everything was "wonderful". Then came all of the crap you went through that eventually brought you here to us. That is his real life. That is the real him. He is not happy, nor will he ever be. Because there is never enough for him. Not enough anything. He thinks he deserves and wants it all, but he will never have it all. No one ever gets it all. But they don't understand that so they're never happy.

#5 Oct 9 - 6AM (Reply to #9)

blueeyes

his new preg wife?

I was her! The new wife preggers acting like a happy family until I woke up! She will wake up and divorce him! She will! See, I went thru the abuse w him driving me to bankrupcy! He took it all now I have 3 little ones and no money or credit. The next girl will to!

#6 Oct 9 - 2AM (Reply to #5)

Amazed

They aren't as happy as they "appear" to be

Remeber. What you see, is not what you get. They put on an act. AN ACT every day of their life. They are FAKE. They are total FAKES and con men. You would never know it, they are that good at conning people. They are not happy. They lie, live a lie, to survive. That is all they know. They are pathological. They cannot be helped. Why set yourself up for failure? They are not happy. They move supply around in their live, that is it. Read more. They have no heart. Literally. They only fake a heart. They fake liking you. They fake love. They fake romance. They fake their family. They fake their family! Their kids! These guys cheat on their families! They are not true to anyone. You will never win with someone who is always changing the rules, and won't give you the rules to play by.

#7 Oct 9 - 2AM (Reply to #6)

Amazed

Don't wait for her to be unhappy either, she will get hers

They do the crappiest things to people. It is unbelievable. Yes, they will marry to look good. They will date to look good. To maniupulate. NOT because they are attracted to this person. NOT because they want to build a life with them. NOT because they value this person, and see their strength. NOT because they want to give to this person. NO. They want to be with someone because of supply. They get people pregnant, and sleep with a co worker. They get someone pregnant, and text their other supply while she is in labor pains. They bring the baby home, and they are oogiling the nurse. That is the narc. It is not heaven, it is hell, it is so disgusting.

#8 Oct 9 - 2AM (Reply to #7)

Amazed

Remember. Brokenglass. How they devalue you, they devalue life

They devalue life. Growing, love, compassion, all of it. They are capable of more bs crap that you care to know. The other woman, feel very sorry for her, feel sorry for their newborn. God it is awful, that a narc can bring a child into the world and subject people to such evil. They have kids not because they want to grow a family. They have a family to manipulate.

#9 Oct 9 - 5AM (Reply to #8)

Alive

WOW Amazed

Every single word that you have said is the utter TRUTH....Thankyou

#10 Oct 8 - 4PM

Susan32

Karma is an everyday thing for Narcs...

Because they're NOT GOD.

#11 Oct 8 - 12PM

Briseis

Girl, you already have it

Girl, you already have it down :D Your "list" of "Remind Me" reads almost like a poem. The trouble with wishing Narcs would get run over by the Karma Bus is that even when they do, they don't suffer quite like a normal person. They don't suffer as much, mainly because they have NO SHAME to suffer with. They are like cockroaches, in a way. A cockroach is thrilled to be alive whether it lives in a slum or in Martha Stewart's kitchen. That's a truth about bottom feeders in general :D My exNarc has spent exactly two months "on his own" without having some kind of drug charge breathing down his neck since I got rid of him. He's either been on probation, in prison, or in a prison diversion drug program for three years. I know him too well to gloat about him being miserable. I know he is miserable in a general sense, he would much rather be God. But he can get satisfactory SUPPLY from ANYONE, and still think his shit doesn't stink. If my day to day happiness was in the slightest bit dependent on whether or not he was suffering the tire tracks of the Karma Bus, I would never be happy.

#12 Oct 8 - 12PM

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brokenglass

he will never be happy ever! ever!ever!..... NOT IN THIS LIFE TIME OR ANY REINCARNATIONS TIME. NEVER NEVER NEVER...

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