Remember: They Feel Inadequate

And nothing proved that to be truer than when he made a comment to me when we were splitting up to the effect of: "when you start dating a broker or a doctor".....clearly, he felt I was leaving and setting my sights higher than a guy in his line of work - that he doesn't earn enough money to keep me around. This of course wasn't true, I didn't feel that way and I wasn't about the money ever. But it doesn't matter what I wanted - it mattered what he perceived I wanted. It mattered that he held himself in low esteem, or at the very least, not quite good enough.

I think that is the driver behind a lot of the rejection these guys perpetrate against us. They get rid of us at the point they know we are on to them and they think they are about to be rejected. From day one, they felt like charlatans, never felt like they measured up - and...well...turns out they were right.

So the next time you feel like you weren't good enough for him, remember - he was the one who felt inadequate and the D&D was all about shifting their fantastical paradigm. Just a thought. :)