The red Flags I ignored:

I just got back from my therapist and we discussed some Red Flags that I ignored throughout the relationship.

He told me his “MO” was to find a girlfriend that needed rescued. He liked to look like the Hero. Once he met the need he felt like his job was done and he moved on to the next. (He knew that what I was looking for was a father figure for my boys)

He told me that he cheated on his first wife and that is how he met wife #2. (If I remember the story correctly wife #2 was married to wife #1 cousin at the time)

He told me that he was married to wife #2 for 11 years. He was really only married to her for one month and admitted he married her just to get her tax refund.

He told me he repeatedly cheated on wife #2 with a man. Wife #2 eventually cheated on him and when he found out he told me he threw her to the floor in the kitchen and after having sex with her he spit in her face and called her a f-ing B#@ch.

He told me that he got his very first girlfriend pregnant at the age of 12. When the girls family found out they up and moved and to this day he has no idea where she is or where that child is.

His son has been in out of jail his entire adult life.

He (the exN) also spent time in and out of jail. Once for a violent crime that I helped him eventually get expunged while we were together.

He told me he use to do drugs with his mom.

He only asked his girlfriend prior to me to move in because he wanted her to help out with the rent. She was upset about the rent arrangement as prior to her moving in his “best Friend” who is a woman lived with him rent free. This is the same “best friend” that he told me towards the end of our relationship is really the love of his life. When I lived with him I paid ¾ of the mortgage on HIS house. (some arrangement that was!)

He was glad when he got transferred because he really wanted to break up with this girlfriend and moving was the only way he could do that without looking like the bad guy.

At one point during their relationship this gf was questioning herself about getting back together with her daughters father. Narcboy told me he totally manipulated the whole situation to get her to think he was caring and loved her because he wasn’t ready for her to leave as he liked having help with the rent.

His first sexual experience with a man was at the ripe old age of 13. Narcboy was hitchhiking and this man picked him up and well one thing lead to another.

He came right and told me that he knew he was a "master manipulator" and he was proud of that.

And of course, the emotional and physical abuse in itself are red flags....long list and If I had the time I am positive I would remember more. I will NEVER ignore Red Flags as obvious as these again. Ever!