Recycled Supply

Lately, I have been asked about supply, and more importantly old supply. A couple members have experienced an old narc, from their past, showing up, reaching out,contacting them. Since this is not the person that devalued them and disgarded them, they are a past lover that is now realized as possibly being a narc, should they still enforce to NC rule or wait to find out to be sure?

NC, absolutely!!!!!!!

These past relationships, whether it be from last year, 5 years ago, or even more......if you can think back and establish that they too were narcs, and they probably were, or at minimum, have narc traits and were/are toxic, than yes, they are seeking supply. They are now recycling their old supply.

Rarely will a narcissist resort to this, but it has been known to happen. They are in short supply, need to obtain a "quick fix" and start rumaging through old email addresses, old phone numbers, social websites such as facebook. They are on the hunt and when all their resources are exhausted, they will recycle.

If you have experienced this recently and are questioning what you should do, DO NOTHING! Please don't question yourself, your past with him/her, do not doubt yourself, and most importantly, don't give them the "benefit of the doubt" in hopes that they have changed, seen the light, know what they have done was wrong and are seeking redemption w/you. Don't fall for the old "I was just thinking of you, it's been so long, and I have always considered you a friend" These are all statements and actions to lure you back in and suck the life out of you TEMPORARILY of course, and leave you once again, when new supply has been established.

They stop at nothing for their supply. They need it as much as a car needs gasoline, a plant needs water, a baby needs milk.......it is what it is, they are what they are, and will recycle continously until their appetite is satisfied.

Be careful. Trust your gut. Stay strong.