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#1 Nov 23 - 4AM
Emma
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REASONS YOU WILL NEVER FIND LOVE

I received this email this morning from the xn I havent had contact with since Friday. His last words to me were ' fuck off ' so i did. I stopped all contact. I blocked him everywhere, but unfortunately I cant block his emails. He came by yesterday to get some his belongings but i didnt open my door..i wasnt ready to listen to his bullshit. So received this this morning:

You're gobby
You're lazy
You're a hypocrite
You contradict yourself
You have a very bad memory
You're stupid
You're cynical
You're controlling
You're demanding
You're deluded
You have no endearing qualities

If you believe I am wrong see above

Goodbye

~~~

I wasnt gobby.. i had an opinion, which most of the time either he didnt listen to or he never agreed with.. but it was MY opinion.

I wasnt a hypocrit.. he just didnt listen and take in nor understand what i was saying.

I wasnt controlling. I didnt tell him what to wear. I didnt tell him how much to drink of a day. I didnt tell him how to wear his hair. I didnt tell him what clothes to wear.

I was demanding.. of his attention that he lacked giving me. He always had better things to do..ie.. looking at other women while with me. Sitting next to me with his head stuck in his ipad or iphone..ignoring what i was talking about.

Damn right deluded.. deluded in thinking what we once had was real.. too fucking right I was deluded!!

I have plenty of endearing qualities. I have the ability to love..to feel..to miss someone..to support someone when needed. I have the ability to be there when someone needs me..I know what its like to feel dead inside when im dropped for no reason.

How up your own arse can you get?!

Nov 26 - 6PM
Emma
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Thank you for your replies..

I didn't reply...I ignored him. If I wanted to keep my sanity I had to ignore him. He seemed to be getting worse. It seems like he was trying to make me hate myself, by picking out things about me, ie my looks, my shape, what I ate and how often I ate..there seemed to nothing about me he liked at all.. Hed call me beautiful then the following day he'd call me ugly..it was a total head blow.. I can't be doing with the games anymore.
Nov 23 - 8PM
Tinker
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be prepared

Emma, i bet he writes you again. if he really thought you were all those things, why would he bother writing? my N would spout the most hurtful words (paragraphs and paragraphs actually) i've ever heard whenever he felt threatened or criticized...typical N behavior. all of it ridiculous and untrue, but it still hurt. as someone wrote below, he cares enough to write to you. and i bet he does it again, especially if you reply which he would love. keep blocking!
Nov 23 - 8PM
ifinallygotit
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this is ridiculous

you are none of that but it is fascinating to read it! mine did not care enough about me to ever write more than just one line in 12 years - really, maybe 4-5 words on all communications I know this sounds sick but I do not think I mattered enough to him to ever even merit receiving a tirade - that requires emotion and time
Nov 23 - 3PM
tynk3377
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hmmm....

Does anyone else hear PeeWee Herman saying ***I know you are but what am I*** hahahahahaha That list is nothing more than Narc babble for listen closely I am going to tell you who I really am...
Nov 23 - 2PM
Done sourcing
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He doesn't know it but he

He doesn't know it but he told you what he is. He is all of those things he said you are. We can be grateful that he outlined all of his defects in black and white for you to see. His list was a perfect list of his projecting his attributes onto you. ds
Nov 23 - 10AM
spinning
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Textbook devalue, Emma...

...Next time hit the delete button before you read. YOU ARE DONE LISTENING TO HIS CHARACTERIZATIONS OF YOU. THEY ARE MEANINGLESS AND HAVE NO BEARING ON YOUR LIFE AND REALITY. SILENCE HIM! DELETE DELETE DELETE. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. AND IT FEELS GREAT!

spinning

Nov 23 - 8AM
Sparrow
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First of all, NEVER feel like

First of all, NEVER feel like you need to defend yourself to us, here on the forum. As soon as any of us read the words that he wrote to you, we know the truth, we see right through him. He is describing himself to you. He is angry, not at you, but at himself. He can't be angry with you, you are not real, you are an object. The pain he wants you to feel with his words, is the pain he is feeling and has felt probably for most of his life. On another note.......what level of education does this man have? "Gooby"? Who even uses such a word? Shake it off......consider the source and move on with your day. :)
Nov 23 - 8AM
Winter
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Emma

Do you see how cheap he is by sending such an email?
Nov 23 - 7AM
Layla
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Projection.

Mods have it right as always........hahaha! It's projection. I'm "crazy".....at least that is what my abuser told me before his disordered azz was tossed out! Hahaha! It's actually sounds funny to me now........ "Projection" is one of the many fun games PD's like to play! They are huge game players....they don't have relationships, they simply have people around them to play head games with......leave the playground my dear, this two year old in a man's body will NEVER play fair! love~ Layla
Nov 23 - 7AM
Hunter
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One Word

Projection!! Hunter
Nov 23 - 6AM
Used
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Emma

He has PROJECTED every negative trait he has on to you....if when they say these's things, you think to yourself, does this sound more like him than me?... You will be suprised how it does... I got all this negative crap. WHEN I WAS STILL WITH HIM, and one day I said this all sounds more like you than me narc.....HE SAID I KNOW THAT.!!!!!!!!!!