Realisation?

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#1 Jan 4 - 3PM

RubyWoo

Realisation?

I ignored the last text, and I just got another one...

"You will be the only girl I ever love. You changed me, you made me a better man. Things got so fucked up, I got so lost and felt so alone.I was so angry at you, so angry at myself. I thought space would make help but it made it worse. You started to distrust me and I lost the person I became.I feel like a shell of a man. I miss your touch so much. I'm not the same person without you. I wish I could go back to two years ago and make things different. The future isn't nearly as bright as before."

Is he realising what he is, specially when he says "a shell of a man"?

#2 Jan 8 - 3PM

RubyWoo

Thanks doll! So so similar!!

Thanks doll! So so similar!! I wonder if they realise they're all sooooo the same!

#3 Jan 8 - 5PM (Reply to #17)

Hunter

Not a chance.. They are the

Not a chance.. They are the latest and greatest gift to humanity.. Hunter

#4 Jan 4 - 9PM

blueworld

ruby i want you to see this

these are old but i was trying to leave him them please ruby see the similaritys please Thursday, 17 February 2011 Left Brett yesterday. texts since This is my only text or call. I'm sorry for all of this. I never wanted to see you cry. I already miss you. I ache. I love you & always will. Please Fly high and strong, for you truly are an angel. I could never keep you, for i am merely a weak soul. Goodbye. I won't forget you. Feb 16 2011 6:06pm I love her so badly. I don't think I will be able to just move on. I know i did this, but i just wish we could go back to just love the other. No drama. Feb 16 2011 6:26pm Oh god! I'm sorry for sending that to you. I really didn't mean to. I'm not trying to bug you. It was an accident. I'm sorry. Please. Feb 16 2011 6:29pm I wish i held you. I wish i kissed you back. I wish i didn't ignore you or give you the silent treatment. I regret this whole thing, I love you. Truly Feb 16 2011 7:18pm I can't stop crying. This is the worst day ever Feb 16 2011 7:24pm Why can't i stop texting you? You were the love of my life and all you ever wanted was to love and be loved. Yet i kept pushing you away. Feb 16 2011 7:27pm Please tell me all this is only really bad dream. Please. I could not have possibly made the worst thing for us to happen. Please tell me its fake Feb 16 2011 7:32pm

#5 Jan 8 - 3PM (Reply to #15)

RubyWoo

Text bombing! Those texts

Text bombing! Those texts sound SO familiar... only mine doesn't text that frequently, but the stuff he says rings a bell!

#6 Jan 4 - 8PM

las730

Delete it

It is all about him. He must have no other prospects and he is trying to get back to you. If you didn't read the books - they are a must read. I'm on the third time reading one of the books - I need constant reminders as why I need to do this.

#7 Jan 4 - 6PM

13Moons13

No, trust me, he is sucking

No, trust me, he is sucking you in so he can throw you under the bus....please if you have any self respect...do not reply to him.....I wish I would have known before it happened to me what I was up against....I kept trying to be NC (but it was before I found this site) and he kept sending me mixed signals and leading me on for six weeks..his D&D nearly cost me my life (and my children a wonderful, cool, attentive, intelligent, beautiful mother). Please..NC..did you read the post about the knife?

#8 Jan 4 - 6PM

janemarie

Do you hear it???? I, I, me,

Do you hear it???? I, I, me, me......his whole text...that's all he is focused on as usual!! All about him!! Block him already!!! He is a pathetic, useless, disordered, manipulative, waste of the human universe....

#9 Jan 4 - 5PM

Dee30

It will set you back

I was month in No contact with him, I was actually starting to heal at least from the extreme pain I felt when he discarded me. Then out of nowhere he calls. I was happy to hear his voice, he was friendly kept asking how are u? seem so concerned. end of our conversation he says something nasty and hurtful to me and a abruptly hangs up all in that conversation he got high from me saying i missed him, and no i haven't moved on then devaluing me in an instant. He gave me "hope" that he had "feelings" for me than he hurts me all within 15 minutes. After that call I felt nauseated, wanted to vomit, became sweaty, flashbacks, anxiety...that was 4 days ago, im still feeling the affect. I had to change my number. The psychological affects were too much. I can never go back to that poor excuse of a man...please don't contact him..

#10 Jan 4 - 4PM

HardToBelieve

Man.

He knows he is a shitty man, thats his realisation. But from what I've read here he doesn't understand he is a narcissist. He knows he is abusive. My ex-narc's texts are a copy of what yours had written you. Desperate for narcissistic supply. He says he cant live without you and its actually TRUE. He is nothing without his narcissistic supply.

#11 Jan 4 - 3PM

Lisa87

Ruby, My exN admitted he was

Ruby, My exN admitted he was narcisistic and makes no difference if they realize what/who they are cause they will never change. They are disordered and just like Hunter says contact=pain. This is just another hoover attempt, another angle to pull at your heartstrings, they cannot let go of their supply. Notice how many times he says "I"...its all about him...actions speak louder than words, words mean nothing without the actions to back them up. Mine delivered cards to my house with almost the exact words, I wish I could go back and make things different, before I hurt you.....I will love you forever...bla bla bla....means nothing, their abuse gets worse and worse each time you fall for their BS. Good luck, stay strong, dont reply, stay NC!!!

#12 Jan 4 - 4PM (Reply to #7)

RubyWoo

I know that, I'm not falling

I know that, I'm not falling for it... I'm just wondering whether they know they have a problem, and feel different to everyone else. It seems as if he knows he had the best he could ever get when he was with me and he fucked it up!

#13 Jan 4 - 4PM (Reply to #8)

Hunter

And what words do think he

And what words do think he tossed at the OW?? Hunter

#14 Jan 4 - 3PM

Hunter

You know Ruby.. I've been

You know Ruby.. I've been here watching you suffer over this piece of Shit.. He is a piece of shit!! Your dad died and he used you for supply and took off for OW in a blink of an eye.. Why he's not blocked is beyond me.. You know what you know and you are falling for it.. He is causing you deep wounds, "Deep" all because you loved him.. You know the answer to your question.. You know what he will do to you if you take him back.. How about you play the cards this time.. Block, him and delete him.. I'm sorry .. He is damaged goods.. It's time to move away from him.. Make this about you.. Hunter

#15 Jan 4 - 3PM (Reply to #2)

RubyWoo

Oh I'm not taking him back

Oh I'm not taking him back Hunter, not at all. Talking on friendly terms (meaning not yelling each other) if we ran into each other in the street is as far as it's going to go for us!!

#16 Jan 4 - 4PM (Reply to #3)

Hunter

He's a Master Manipulator..

He's a Master Manipulator.. Talking on friendly terms will suck you back in.. Contact = Pain Hunter

#17 Jan 4 - 4PM (Reply to #5)

Run4it

I agree with Hunter. I don't

I agree with Hunter. I don't think you can be friends with these guys. My ex N has about 5 women (all married but one) who he calls all the time when he is needing supply. He constantly cries on their shoulders and sucks up their caring life force. If I were their husbands, I would punch the loser out but he is such a weeny, they probably don't think he is worth it. Of note is the fact that he only has ONE male friend because real men don't act this way.

#18 Jan 4 - 4PM (Reply to #4)

Lisa87

Listen to Hunter or PM me as

Listen to Hunter or PM me as I've been through it all and tried to do the same....it doesn't work. They are master manipulators, supply is supply, none is better than any other as far as they are concerned. Its who they can control and manipulate better.

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