Ran into ex N's exWife tonight

Let me explain. My exNBF's ex wife was a friend of mine in high school. I lived away for many years, during the time they married and had 2 children. When I returned, I did not see them as a couple but had run into her a few times over the course of several years. I was always very fond of her when we were young and thought a lot of her and her family.

Flash forward 10 years and they had been divorced for almost 2 years when someone fixed me up with her ex (my N) Flash forward to present day, and I am almost 6 months out from D&D and a pretty solid 4-5 months of NC from that psycho.

The N accused her of an affair and all manner of stupid things while we were together. I always let him know that I thought the world of her and tried to help in his relationship issues with the daughters who had nothing to do with him.

As I sat in a small, local eating establishment with my mother tonight, his ex walked in. We have not seen one another since before I started dating him almost 2 years ago. She came toward me and as soon as we locked eyes, we BOTH got tears in our eyes. She knew. I knew. We both understood.

It was like God had put us there for understanding. We were able to talk briefly and she asked me to please call her to get together. I let her know how much I cared for her and how sorry I was for what she must have endured for over 20 years. She said he made her think she was crazy. She said she was so grateful while I was dating him because he was better to the girls. So many things. So much hurt for her. The N brought his OW to dinner when he visited his daughter on a trip a few months ago. The OW was dressed in short skirt and low top and apologized for being late because their room key wasn't working properly. Daughter had to witness leg rubbing all during dinner with her friends and was very embarrassed. Room key. Dressed like a teenager at 42. Rubbing legs. Just what a daughter wants to see and hear....ugh.....

As for me, I was so grateful to see her and let her know that I understood. I told her that I didn't care what she had to do to get away from him because the most important thing was that she did. She even questioned whether or not she had tried hard enough to keep the marriage together. OMG They are all the same in they way they manipulate you into thinking it is all your fault!!!! I am so thankful that it only lasted 1 1/2 years for me. I could see the pain still in her eyes, even though she has a great family, children and friends. The funny thing is, I feel angrier over what he has done to his ex wife and daughters than I do about what happened to me. I am disgusted by him.

We should not have to deal with this in our lives, but here it is, rampant, as you can see from this site. Thank God I found this site. At least I know what I have dealt with and can place a name to it and see that there is a way through it that is healthy. I hope I can share a bit of that with my old friend when we meet again. Tonight I am praying for her and for all of you and for me and all the other innocent victims of the NPD predator.