Quote- Antoine de Saint Exupery, "I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes...

“I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him; it is what he thinks of himself. To undermine a man's self-respect is a sin. “
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

It is Antoine Saint-exupary birthday today. He wrote the 'The little prince' what an amazing insightful book.
I bought this book for my ex-narc once, many moons ago. He thought he was like the boy in the book. Typical of him. But its a beautiful book and I love it. I have bought it for my son and I own a copy of my own in colour. The drawings and the story are so insightful.

Get a copy if you have not read it.
But I found this quote too that he wrote on google.

I feel this really sum the narc up...

its why these people demean us, poor bounderies and respect for boundaries.
he think he can control all around him much like children do. They have to from birth to get there needs met.. That it why childrne reach a healthy stage of narcissism between 2 and 7. it is during that stage that we are to be taught basic lesson about our fellow man and it is through developing community spirit. Something that is fading from out ever increasing individualistic society. It is when the importance of people’s perceptions of you become more important than your perception of yourself. Then I think it is at that point when we open ourselves up to abuse by others who use that that to their advantage.

If these pathologically disturbed people, could understand to live and let live and be less envious and more empathic then they would see it is a basic sin to judge, criticize and chastise for what they ‘perceive’ to be our misgivings or mistakes. To get this fundamental position in life one has to forgive the self and others and be in state of grace and humility. It doesn’t make money, it doesn’t gain power and it cannot control anything.

They would have to grow, develop and transform themselves into someone who could could recognise that living and relationships are about your give and take and mutual understanding. They would have to see that love is formed through seeing your partner as human and fallable and loving them still. They would have to accept that it is not there right or there will in life to control people or dynamics of relationships using underhand means. They would be open, receptive, and malleable.

They can be none of these things.
I am gona print this quote and put it up in my house to remind me (and him cos he still comes in my place when he wants) that , yes, it is the person perception of themselves that is the key to understanding others. I can tell you you’re a great person and help you to feel better when your down, by listening and being there. I cant solve it for you and no amount of discussion or debating can bring about change, It HAS TO come from the person himself.
So you can mock, judge criticize and disarm and attack all you like but in the end, if you have a lower opinion of a me, that is in fact even lower that the one I hold of myself, then boy oh boy, it wont be long until you will be visited by a sinful evil dark spirit that will destroy your world and those around you.