Question about hoovering
Question about hoovering
I was just reading the article on the blog on
hoovering and somewhere it said the the narc will only stop hoovering once he knows we've seen through him and his behavior. If he still thinks he has an ounce of a chance, he'll come back.
I am wondering now if that is really the case. What has your experience been?
I am now completely uninterested in my ex-narc but have not had the chance to tell him yet. He has a new girlfriend and at this point I feel more like "whatever". He's been making a few half-assed attempts of contacting me but definitely no hoovering. I have not returned his calls, nor picked up when he called, however, I have not gone NC, so he's still on my facebook and occasionally I will see him online. If he starts chatting I might say hi and that's it. I am not sure if he might be sensing that I have lost interest.
So essentially I have 3 questions to the members of this board:
1) Do you think he's actually sensed I am no longer interested or do you think he'll be back when supply is low?
2) Would telling him that I am no longer interested stop him from coming back?
3) what have your experiences been, more specifically, if your narc knew you saw past his image and saw his true character, did he actually stop hoovering?
Having been engaged once......
I have wondered the same thing
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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"
I'd say he'll try again. What
Alisa
"Any response at all is
I think your narc is sending
Ex
I think you are right - he is
He didnt react. He said what