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#1 Jan 29 - 2PM
Steph
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Question about cognitive dissonance

I am seeing a councellor and have expressed this feeling of not being able to let go of the good memories and not wanting to believe the bad side....and therefore blaming myself for the bad side or thinking he's not as bad as people tell me. and I can't seem to get this through my head. She says this is normal and takes time etc...I have maintained no contact for almost 2 months but feel like i'm getting worse rather than better.

The article here on cognitive dissonance doesn't explain treatment. Is it a symptom of PTSD? I didn't think i had PTSD (from reading the article posted here) but maybe that's whats keeping me "stuck" in recovery?

Jan 29 - 2PM
rache
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this is where i am at=AND,i have PTSD

I am (stuck)even though i logically SEE it clearly.......at,seeing all the good things(bad outweighed ALL good he did),and,thinking,what IF what IF i am wrong,what IF IF IF IF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!But,there is just too much damning evidence against him,and,all the ladies here explaining narcissists/social/psycho paths fits him to a tee.there is no ~IFS~anymore to explain him away from who he REALLY is a selfish,cruel,evil socialpath/psychopath narcissist who cares NOTHING,NOTHING! about anyone/thing but himself.
Jan 29 - 2PM (Reply to #6)
Steph
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Good luck with your

Good luck with your recovery:) Thanks for sharing....helps me feel like I'm not alone or crazy.
Jan 29 - 2PM
Barbara (not verified)
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staying strong78

it is a HUGE component of PTSD it IS what keeps you stuck don't forget - hypnosis & brainwashing implanted it pretty deep - takes MONTHS to truly get past http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/03/28/emotional-memory-management this CD helped me, btw: https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?ii=125196&c=cart&aff=21165&ejc=2 ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Jan 29 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
Steph
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Thanks so much for the

Thanks so much for the info. PTSD it is then. I'll look for a councellor that specializes in that. I am so unbelievably dissappointed that I am left with emotional crap and he can go on like it's no big deal.
Jan 29 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
itreallyisabouthim
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Barbara

Out of curiosity, is this one of the things that *causes* PTSD, rather than a symptom? I mean it seems like for me trying to rectify this gap between what I first believed and all the evidence to the contrary was the torturous part of being with a N.
Jan 29 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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itreallyisabouthim

it is both. but remember - once the Cognitive Dissonance fades, you will still have PTSD. The CG is caused by his BRAINWASHING, HYPNOSIS and TRANCE/ SUGGESTIBILITY on you. http://www.loyola.edu/campuslife/healthservices/counselingcenter/trauma.html ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website