Q: Are any of your Ns really affectionate, intimate, etc?
Q: Are any of your Ns really affectionate, intimate, etc?
I've been reading that Ns tend to get scared when they feel that we are getting "too close" to them, so they withdraw. They withhold affection, love and intimacy.
My N is overly affectionate. He wants sex alllll the time. And he is always spewing all of these mushy lovey dovey words. They are so much so that after a while it becomes much. And it certainly seems like he doesn't mean them when they are said so often and in such an extreme manner (and of course, the mere fact that he is an N). But my N is so emotional and so lovey dovery and cries whenever I express that I am done with him.
What is up with this? Is this something that you are also experiencing? I do feel my N withdraw when I ask him too much about himself - like about his childhood, but for the most part he seems to be the opposite of this cold un-intimate animal.
Trust me, he is a narc. I know this. I have been really down for a few days, and have been trying to stay busy with school and catch up which is why I haven't been around much, but I've been going through a series of "low days" after a pretty long streak of good days. Sigh. I can't wait until all of this pain and trying to figure things out go away.
(And I take all blame for not maintaining NC. Just an FYI, while I've been in contact with him, he has promised me the truth, marriage, babies (I didn't ask for these things and do not want these things) - and only yesterday I found out about THREE more women he was fooling around with behind my back while we were dating. This is so ridiculous, I just don't understand where my head was in all of this.)
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Yes.. Mine totally was
Mine was like that too in the
Alisa, My N was this way -
Yeah, sounds like they were
Ok, so it sounds like crying,
Oh gawd...
itsallaboutmenow - not absurd
It'sAllAboutMeNow, this
dazed
That would
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Oh when we were having sex,
Yep - hoovering sex was
Yes. Totally. lovey dovey. smushy baby talk - barf
Very Intimate but then only at his convenience
goin beyond mine was very similar
Sound like mine...
Same
the thing that weirded me out
Mine wanted sex all the time but not intimacy
Actually we were like that
He compared HIMSELF to a prostitute
Dazed....mine said the same thing!!!
Monica, mine also made a big
Same here
Dazed...think how rich we could be lol!!
Monica - breakfast
Monica, mine ALSO asked me
Dazed....we Do deserve better!!