Preparing for the next "one up"

I have an ex-husband and thankfully the children have never been an issue or bargaining chip...the kids were always free to come and go between both households as they pleased. The ex-husband, not sure what he is, possibly an N yet not quite potent enough to be effective...just selfish lol. The ex-husband's withholding of sex to "punish" me, and his Madonna/whore complex, and his ability to spend every penny I earned on treating himself like the princess he is...as enough to compel me to leave without actually looking for answers about what happened. Plain and simple, he was and still is a garden-variety assclown. His withholding and emotional withdrawal was what made the N seem so charming in comparison...so let's just say the ex-h is bad news. But I digress... ;) Is it possible, Blytheboo, for you to not have to interact with the N ex-husband at all...do you or he have family that would allow themselves to serve as an exchange point? Could thekids be picked up / dropped off at an aunt or uncle's or grandparents' house?If that is not possible, could you pick neutral public place, like a Starbucks or something, to swap the kids...so that neither of you are on the other's turf? Somewhere that the kids could walk into on their own, so you don't even have to deal with speaking with him or seeing his car or his new supply, etc. Prevent the situation from occurring, rather than get anxious over dealing with it.

LOOOOOL....omg SAME exact thing happened to me...I bought a 2009 Nissan Rogue two months ago...to replace the 1994 piece of shit Honda Civic HE bought for me and shortly after he bought me that antique, he bought himself a 2006 Toyota Rav...getting rid of that Honda was important for me...mainly because it, like him, was unreliable, but also because it was a tangible link to him from my vantage point and from his...like "look, you are able to get to work and through life because of what I did for you"...in his sick twisted mind. He never asked what happened to the Honda...but two weeks later, ambushed me at a tournament with his new OW...and made a point to introduce her to me as his girlfriend...wtf. There was another incident when I was showing him pictures of my dog (post break up)...and a picture of another player from the tour appeared...this guy is really well liked and high ranked, handsome...a good friend of mine...the ex never knew I had those sorts of friendships with people outside our relationship...I made the comment that "I love him!"...as I would say in regard to any person I'm close to...he didn't say a word and I could literally feel him seething with jealousy...like his whole body tensed up instantly. Then the new car I bought...then his reply with the new OW...I might have damaged his psyche a tad, ya think? heh heh heh heh heh..... oh, and then his insincere "that was weird" text two days after the ambush, my non-reply and now he's blocked from texting at all. I WIN fucker! :D

Both my n's play these games too. It gets really old and gut churning especially with stbxN since it's so fresh. Whenever one of these games commences I mentally tell myself, "consider the source". They are disordered and will do literally anything to "win" the game of the moment. If I buy my daughter new shoes or a new outfit I can guarantee that next week stbxN will have bought her a whole new wardrobe. If I take my older kids on a day trip one weekend I can guarantee that exN#1 will take them out of state on the next holiday. LOL It's so stupid and I've learned to view it as such. If it's a new woman your N wants to flaunt, just consider the source. And thank your lucky stars that she is keeping him busy and out of your hair. You don't want him and in short order she won't either. And CONGRATS on the new vehicle!!