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#1 Jun 22 - 4PM
enoughalready
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Predictable

XN txts his one word sentence every Tuesday and sometimes Wednesday. His one word for this week was "happy"? As if he made me happy? OMG-I was so miserable the last 2 yrs. I told him long ago I was perfectly happy not hearing or getting txts from him either. It's been 5 months of NC, never replying to his txts. I keep hoping this will die out very soon. Any one experience a predictable narc like mine?

Jun 24 - 1PM
trying2overcome
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yikes

yikes at how much alike they are and yikes at how much alike we all are after they are done with us !!!! Mine was SO (and still is) predictable .. my girlfriend had to hear so much about him she would tell me "Do you want me to tell you his next move??" ha She says she didn't date him and feels abused by him!! I am proud of you enoughalready for going 5 months NC. I wish I could say I have done it .. if I didn't work with mine maybe I could .. I blocked him from everything outside of work. He talked me into unblocking once and I did for a while but Blocked him again and have refused to again so far. But I get weak every few weeks because he contacts me at work .. I think it is great that you don't respond .. you should block him from your cell so next time he will get a big fat message back that it can't go thru .. hee Sad1, I know how you feel, bless your heart. I hope you get strong enough to quit contacting him at all. Don't give him the thrill of knowing you will still do it even though he doesn't even bother to respond or check on you. he is a jerk! They all are!! If my N stayed crappy maybe I would have never gotten weak but he is the type that is constantly telling me how much he loves and misses me and how its not the same with anyone else .. and my heart can't let go because of it.
Jun 24 - 1PM
TexN (not verified)
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Enough

As tempting as it would be to text back to say "very", don't do it! Congrats on the NC...thats awesome!
Jun 22 - 9PM
Introspection
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Have you considered changing

Have you considered changing you contact information? I bet if you don't, 5, 10, 15 years will go by and he will still be doing the same thing. They appear to never want to get lost!
Jun 22 - 5PM
rainbow1
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They are ALL predictable.

They are ALL predictable. Isnt this what pathology is? The inability to change? They are all the same. Mine is very predictable. To the point where I can even predict what he will say, what he will respond to and wont respond to. When we were dating it was actually a fun game. I would bet my friends what he would respond to me in text word or word. I made some good money off of it ;)

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Jun 22 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
Happy1
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I'm sure I could bet and win

I'm sure I could bet and win on knowing what my N sends in response to texts as well. I know if I say I miss him I don't get a response. If I say I miss him and I went to the store.... his response would be something to do with the store. If I ask him if he misses me he doesn't text anything at all. Gosh, I don't know why I always doubt myself with him that he's an N. Everything I read on this message board relates to him. The only thing I don't know is if he would contact me first with NC. I always always always run back to him when he breaks up with me. I don't see him coming back so I think I would be a lucky one even though it would hurt.
Jun 22 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
naivenomore
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Same Pattern, Exactly!

OMG, what you noticed about the pattern of his responses if you text him is exactly what I'm dealing with, too! I'm in that stage where I still look for his e-mails, but it's been several days now and I slipped back a little tonight, feeling tense and sad. My head knows he's definitely not good for me and I shouldn't ever be back with him in any form, but my heart still bleeds from the way it was when it was good. I guess we're in the middle and it's mighty tough to hold ground, for sure! I hate the not knowing, even though I know I shouldn't care about what he's up to (does that make any sense?). We have to try to stay strong here and it sounds from reading other's posts like they know what they're talking about, so keep chatting, OK?