Post Here Instead of Contacting Your Ex

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#1 Sep 4 - 10AM
FreeToBe
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Post Here Instead of Contacting Your Ex

Greetings my fellow Forward Movers!

I have been a reader of other relationship/break up forums and someone began a thread just like this and I really thought this would be good for this forum as well.

This is a place to say all the things you want to say to your exN without the detrimental effects of actually making contact with them. Here you will say what you need to say to GET IT OUT!

I will start:

Dear Psycho Abusive Ex,

YOU are the evil monster! YOU are the pathetic excuse for a human being! You are a light sucking vampire. A wolf in sheeps clothing! All of those nasty things you have posted on the internet, FOR YEARS, about me were nothing more than PROJECTIONS!

All of the preaching you did to me about how to be a humble and respectable person....WTF was that all about? AS IF, you have a leg to stand on! Your words were wise. Too bad you are unable to practice your preachings!

Was I some sort of psychological experiment for you? Were you trying to test the theory of if telling someone they are mentally ill will eventually make them mentally ill? DID YOU THINK THAT IF YOU DROVE ME INSANE ENOUGH THAT I WOULD FORGET THAT YOU TOLD ME YOU WERE BORDERLINE/NARCISSIST?????? Well, let me tell you that YES...my time with you eventually DID make me mentally ill BUT there was always that sane part of me in the back ground telling me that you are full of shit! That you are an evil liar.

You sucked my happiness and light out of me and injected me with your anger. You were an angry man when I met you, you are an angry man today. You are incapable of holding onto any LIGHT as your darkness overshadows it all! You hate humanity. You judge humanity as if you are superior to them when you are nothing but the lowliest of low. YOU see it all in terms of black and white!

YOU dehumanized ME! My mistake was in HUMANIZING you!

One day, I will reclaim my happiness and light. But first I must purge every drop of negative energy that you infected me with!

One day, I will be every ounce of awesomeness that you preached to me about and you will be nothing more than the evil monster you are with NO ONE to love you.

FREE!

Sep 4 - 11AM
Anabelle
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phoenix

Dear Freaking Professional Psyhopath Narcissist Prince of mine, I guess you think I would start my mail with sad lines, all missing and kissing. You must think of me as a destroyed, depressed wreck, crying after your highness. I am sure you think I must love-hate you. You sad pathetic little ass... I would love to tell you bad words or curse you but the thing is, I have lost ALL MY interest doing so. I don't even feel like to send you a virtual f..k you. You know, since you got your vampire energy out I breath again. I don't need you. I have never needed you. NOBODY needs you. My life has changed. Back to normal. I don't sit at home isolated - faithfully waiting for you, while you are out with some chicks pretending to work at home in an other city. I meet friends, who despite all your efforts, remained my friends. And I went on with my career as I always wanted. Not as you believed to be good for me. I am free and my wings are growing back very fast, just like a phoenix. Because I know what does it mean to enjoy life & embrace its beauty. I know what does it mean empathy & respect. I am sorry you will never understand it, but try to replace values with wealth & women. You are destroyed by your parents. I know, they have never loved or appreciated you, only your even more fucked up sister. You are the clown of your family and your club. Sorry to break the news. You don't have friends, nobody likes you & most of them think you are a liar, a lonely sad individual. But since they are snob, and don't like to spend money, just take advantage of your dinners. Btw you don't know how to cook. Your food has no taste, just like your soul. You are not that appreciated person you hope to be. People don't like you nor admire you. In fact they hardly can bare you. I am happy you dumped me. I lost that extra weight, I've gained being with you. I look hot like hell. I had sex with X 6 weeks later after you dumped me - it was passionate. You can only pretend such thing. In fact you were boring in bed. Really you were. Extra thanks for killing my naive self. It was a big burden on me for a while now. Took me 2 years, but it's done. Plus I love to be able to spot a psycho & a liar by the first encounter. I am happy you are out of my life & I cant be grateful enough for you leaving me. Good bless you with a short life, so that you can't harm too many. You have never been as interesting, fun, loving & loved as I am. You sucked me into a depressed woman, so you could live on my radiance. I understand why you picked me. If I were you I would have done the same. With love - your bambi- Ps. I ALWAYS HATED YOUR pathetic neurotic mother. Just like you do ;) Ps2. Your father is a sociopath, spit into his grave once the day comes, if you dare. Your mother may do the same just right after you. Ps3. Buy a new pair of design shoes.. It must be horrible to wear it with a hole on the sole... It felt so good. Thank you Freetobe for this brilliant idea.
Sep 4 - 12PM (Reply to #12)
FreeToBe
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Brilliant Idea

Hi Anabelle, I walk around, still, with this internal dialog going of me talking to him. It's killing me and holding me back. It truly does feel good to Get It Out doesn't it? *HUGS!* FreetoBe
Sep 4 - 12PM (Reply to #13)
Anabelle
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FreetoBE

Hi FreetoBE :) Thank you for giving me space to throw this out. I understand how do you feel. I feel peace now. I was so fed up with him, with this topic, with my pain. I had to write it down and it really felt good. There could be so much to share, but on the other hand if you think it over. It's all said and done. But you just keep going. Once you finished make his soul naked in your thoughts.You will feel anger. Later pity. And maybe one day just indifference. I am not there yet. But at least i know now that he was really boring in bed :))))) THANK YOU A
Sep 4 - 11AM
Sparrow
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I have nothing to say to

I have nothing to say to either one of my narcs at this point in the game. But, if I were to write to either one of them, I would write the following................. Be proud of the man that you are. With that and a dime, you might be able to buy a cup of coffee. Otherwise, you are worthless and meaningless. Floundering alone on this planet, playing pretend to yourself and others. I, on the other hand, have the upper hand, although you think you do, I just need to excersize it more, and I will. I have still half of my life to live and you know what? It is going to be even more amazing than the first half. You, however, are faced with nothing but misery, waiting for your own demise. Now I ask you this, who is really the fairest of them all? Bite me.
Sep 4 - 11AM (Reply to #10)
FreeToBe
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Laughing Out Loud

Frick'n BRILLIANT!
Sep 4 - 11AM (Reply to #9)
Used
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SPARROW

love it ..love itxx and we are the fairest of them all...they are all the WICKED DRAMA QUEENS.
Sep 4 - 10AM
FreeToBe
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In Addition

You KNOW all of this to be true! What you did to me was sick, twisted, malicious and INTENTIONAL! And to think....I once believed that you loved me.
Sep 4 - 10AM
indenial
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what an awsome post !

You write exactly how I am feeling. I struggle to articulate what I'm feeling and you have just articulated it for me. This is exactly what my narc is and what he did to me ! Thankyou so much
Sep 4 - 10AM (Reply to #6)
FreeToBe
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Indenial

It has taken me a very long time to find my voice. My Mom raised me to not say anything unless I had something nice to say. But, I believe this circumstance to be the exception. You will find your voice eventually indenial. I think it comes with developing our backbones! Free!
Sep 4 - 10AM
Used
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freetobe

this was awesome...this could be word for word what i would say to my narc in a letter...fortunatly, i said it in person...i said no one loves you...no one will ever love you...for the long haul...i said there is no point in telling you you will end up alone..b/c you already are alone....he stood and took the lot.... his answer,we all end up alone..and die alone ,so what is the diffrence...i said the diffrence is yours has come to pass so early....i hope all you have done,was worth losing my friendship for.....i think you will find it wasent..
Sep 4 - 10AM (Reply to #3)
FreeToBe
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Dear Used

The effects of purging it here will be more effective in re-capturing ourselves than it would by saying it to them in person. By saying anything to them in person will only serve the purpose of jading YOU more. While what you said to your exN was probably true, I'm certain that he let those comments roll off of his back. They cannot handle the truth about themselves. Therefore, all they can do is deny the validity of your words. Mine like to preach and he was damn good at it! He always managed to make me believe that I am a horrible person. BUT, he couldn't hold up the facade of being a person worthy of those preachings! Free!
Sep 4 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
Used
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freetobe

oh yes, i know what you mean...i should have said i then dumped him 23mnths ago....i am now coming back to life...lol
Sep 4 - 10AM
Swan
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Great idea

Attention Abusive Narchole: You drained all the life and energy out of me after 6 nightmarish years and at this point I don't even have any energy left to speak to you. Swan