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Polyamorous ... What ?

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#1 Jul 29 - 1PM
Scoop
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Polyamorous ... What ?

For the love of God ... I was seeing a guy and i thought i was developing feelings for him but it is with regret i have to tell everyone that he turned out to be a complete WANKER !
Get this ... he wants a polyamorous relationship, which is posh talk for "getting his leg over with whoever he fancys "... ... So i let him talk and explane himself (mainly for sport lol) and he gave me a dead serious talk on how he feels he has transended jealousy and although he loves me very much he feels his love should be shared but i was not to worry because he would always come back to me ......One dosnt need to go into my response in great detail but i think the words "Fu*k and off and twat and delusional and freak " where used quite a bit ...

On a serious note ,although i was having feelings for this guy what i learnt to do is see thoses red flags loud and clear ... i hate to admit it but before the narc i would have probably thought i could make this guy forget about OW by being the perfect girlfriend , so i am pating myself on my back this evening ... Onward !! (actualy i have a date next week with cute Artist guy.. high five !)..
Big love and Happy Friday Scoop x

Jul 29 - 7PM
Arwen
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Good for you Scoop! How long

Good for you Scoop! How long did you date him for? Gosh these men are such psychos.
Jul 29 - 5PM
Steph
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Sorry to hear the guy was a

Sorry to hear the guy was a weirdo! But good for you for getting the hell out of there! xoxo, Steph
Jul 29 - 3PM
Journey
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Sorry to hear this guy is a

Sorry to hear this guy is a flake - but good on YOU for paying attention to the red flags and acting on them!! Have fun with cute artist guy... high five back at ya!!

Journey on...

Jul 29 - 3PM
onwithmylife
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Scoop

there was a guy on a dating website who said he wanted a polymorous relationship, what is up with these loser men, they all want their cake and eat it, or else a friend with benefits or just a fuck buddy, is there any decent man who wants a loving, committed relationship with great sex also?!!!Good luck with the artist guy, keep us posted!
Jul 29 - 2PM
lily20
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wow

Yeah, I dated a guy who in the first few dates said, "oh, and I don't get jealous." I thought that was sooo strange, considering that I might have been a flirt. Then I understood what it meant a few months later when his eyes and hands wandered around !!! He wants his cake and he wants to eat it too. Some men cover this up by saying it's a spiritual thing, when it's in actuality a lust thing.
Jul 29 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
Reddley
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I believe some people are

I believe some people are capable of loving more then one person in healthy long term relationships. It's not for me. I also think some people probably use polyamory to their advantage... And it's not just men lily dear. My female friend who is BPD is into this. When she moved away from here to the other side of the country she left a wake of disaster. She was sleeping with a married man, another friend of mine and our boss. Our friend thought he was the only one until she spilled the beans out of guilt. He went straight to upper management in our company because at the time she had been also working with us. He made our immediate boss admit that he cheated to his wife. He's religious and very family oriented. So his wife boots him out. He was forced to apologize to my guy friend. The married guy she was sleeping with... who knows. Half of the staff who found out about this bullshit lost all respect for our boss. Oh ya did I mention that my boss's wife had cancer when he was seduced by her? Honestly! A 55 year old man seduced by this 20 year old flake. Yes he insists he was seduced. She has not accepted responsibility for any of the damage she did.
Jul 29 - 2PM
Lobo555
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Oh muh Lord

It'll be a miracle if he finds someone who would go for that b.s.! "feels his love should be shared" He can share his love with Thelma Thumb and her four finger sisters from now on! :) I hope, like you, I now see the red flags and run to the nearest exit!!!! These guys are everywhere, it seems. Happy Friday and hugs to you. Congrats for doing the right thing!
Jul 29 - 1PM
rosedewittbukater
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You go girl

Sorry that he turned out to be like that but I am so proud of you for sticking to your guns!!!
Jul 29 - 1PM
lillymarch
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What an arrogant,

What an arrogant, self-serving sicko!! High five on the response. I wish we could video these things. Have fun and thanks for inspiring me!