Please help me

....and other passive stuff you can do/say when he shows up. When he does, excuse yourself, you have a LOT to do. Again, he is using you...just in another way. And he is under the impression that you're okay with that. He has no knowledge of the education you've gained here recently. But he will soon find out that you're no longer his doormat. See how they position themselves to make everything the most advantageous for THEM? He needs your help, and then timed it just right so he can still see the GF. I say a big EFF him. Wow, this guy is a scoundrel. PS. He could get nasty, if you have any dirt on him, please keep it handy. It may be more important to him to keep his image intact than coming after you... But none of this will matter or be effective if you keep him engaged. Good luck, be strong, act like you don't give a damn...ignore...you can do this...you will start feeling better once he's gone and you gain some clarity.

To cut off the appendage stuck to your apron strings-EX-THE (EX)narc!!!!!

Start thinking in terms of doing what is best for you and your mental and emotional health. This includes following all of Barbara's advice and finding a therapist you can talk to openly and comfortably. You will need this therapist for the next year to 18 months minimum. Making a sudden rash decision for whether or not to include him tomorrow in a business meeting is difficult. If you can do everything without him and have no reason to include him, then obviously, he should not be included whatsoever. If this would create a hostile situation with him and you can't afford to enter into a hostile situation with him due to other business/work ties to him, - well only you know that answer as it relates to including him for tomorrow. This is a long term and strategic thought process and planning operation - removing this Narc totally from your life - with the end goal being complete no contact and moving on with your life (with or without your current husband, another issue you will have to eventually give thought to as well). Him bringing this old fiance to your place of work in order to accomodate a lunch date with her is obvious evidence he is a twisted sadistic man. More evidence for your evidence pile, to help convince your brain, that he is bad news for you and your future happiness and peace. Hang in there for tomorrow, all the best to you.

Focus on your business. Do not have any contact with him, trying to show him how good you are doing without him,,move forward, look straigtforward. You owe him nothing. You can do it without him. I do not know the nature of your business relationship, do not give him any more. Do not give him any more. My exN was involved in my business. Stay out. They will suck you for everything you are, stay away. Do not work with them. If you have to, tell a higher up there is no possible way to work with them on any project. Give them the reason. Document everything, keep your cool. Stay away from his entre to your business, you owe him nothing, feel good about your new prospect, and stay far far away from the exN. They are corrupt no matter how you cut it. Stay away from them once and for all. They only seek to destroy you, personally and professionally.