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I don't know what state you live in but hopefully its not a 'no fault' state. My state is a no fault state and that means whatever N wants to do with his child on his time he can do without my knowlege. I think a therapist or lawyer might say "did you confront N about it?" Argh...I hate this question. It turns the responsibility onto the victim (you and your son). But a victim, better than anyone, knows a N would take that opportunity to belittle you, cause a scene in front of his child, and rage. We know not to confront the N about that. Also if you do he would probably show son more picture and tell him about the gf even more to spite you. If the professionals ask you this...be honest....you are fearful of N's reaction so you did not confront him. That's all I know to say, mallory. I'm so sorry. I read your post about the drawing and I just felt so sad and helpless for your little boy. Your best friend now is time. Over time and with faith we have to believe justice will prevail for our precious babies. Pray that your son is protected from evil. Pray that he is surrounded only by those people who have your son's best intest in mind. You are in my prayers. I do know how you feel...I'm there with you. My N told my daughter "you're going to fall in love with (gf) ". Everytime I pick daughter up from N she has a 'daddy's little princess' shirt on t (The same one) and some new toy from Disneyworld that gf bought her on her recent vacation. Also they have gf's boys call my daughter when she's with me to try to lure her away from me. The boys (age 5) say "its too bad you can't come over her and play isn't it?". Sad for those boys, too... Please know you are not alone. I understand..really...I can empathize with you. Please let us know what lawyer says. ~Give a Narc an inch and they become the ruler~ nolongercontrolled

Tell lawyer Tell his therapist Tell the evaluator (include child's reaction) This man is a SOCIOPATH!!! You need to STOP ALL VISITATION until it gets supervised to protect your children from his BOUNDARY-LESS, SELFISH, SICK shit! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.