PLEASE HELP!!

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#1 Jan 24 - 7AM
booboo35
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PLEASE HELP!!

Hi everyone need some advice, I have just been out to pick my sons Birthday cake up, And as i was going to get the bus, Ex narc pops out from nowhere, I have been NC for over a month, And he comes right up to me and grabs me ans says to me, Cl xxxRE look at me in the eyes i still love you!! I was just in shock but i screamed at him to get off and i told him that there were CCTV cameras every were, and to basically fuck off, Anyway am a bit shook up , am back at home now, Should i get the police, Bye the way this Narc was sleeping with my so called best mate, I have all the proof that's not the only woman as well she was just one of many, through are 13 year relationship. Am spinning at the moment but also proud of myself too, As usually i would have held a conversation with him and he would have been in my home by now, This site and the knowledge i have gained from here is telling me i have done the right thing, ???? AAAAAHHHHHHHHH????? xxx

Jan 25 - 12PM
booboo35
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H i all thanks to replying

H i all thanks to replying to my post, Am sorry i never got back been really busy its been my sons birthday, Am still in a bit of shock but OK, Hope all of you are OK? I am angry today as he must have been watching me, I seen him before i got on the bus to pick my sons cake up, It all happened so quickly but i told my mum and she said he is stalking me as he was waiting on the corner outside a pub by my home, I have told the police as i want all this logged he has no right to even come near me, He thought i was just gonna fall for his bs He was saying i never slept with your mate,,, HE DID, (She his dead now,) That hurt me so, so much when i found out, I know that there were lots more other women but sleeping with my so called best mate was like a dagger to my heart, Am glad its over am glad that pig is out my life, The blood sucking evil pig, I hop all are you are doing well in your recovery and thanks for all being great people xxxxxx

STAY STRONG!! XX

Jan 24 - 3PM
Briseis
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You did an AMAZING job

You did an AMAZING job handling that Booboo!!! Fantastic!!! He's really lucky you weren't armed. Him grabbing you like that is "simple assault", at least over here in the US. It can be prosecuted. That he is SICK enough to come grab you by force is a worry. I wonder if you can get a restraining order? Or file a police report and start a paper trail. Even if you did none of the above, you handled this perfectly. The first time my exN encountered me after I ended it he ran up to me and tried to take my car. I started screaming CALL 911!! and freaked everyone out LOL!! He did not try that one again. You couldn't have done it better, Booboo :)
Jan 24 - 12PM
justicejones
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Great job, Booboo! So very

Great job, Booboo! So very proud of you. That must have been a real adrenaline rush! I agree, don't get the police involved. Just stay NC and try not to analyze the situation too much, meaning "what did he mean? why did he do that? does he still love me? has he changed?" etc. You know in your heart that he still is the jerk, scumbag Narc that he always has been and always will be. Be proud that the ball is in your court and keep it that way. NO CONTACT! NON WHATSOEVER! That is your power!
Jan 24 - 11AM
Happy1
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booboo

You did everything right! You should feel empowered and strong and even more determined! You are doing everything you need to. Good for you!
Jan 24 - 11AM
victimnomore
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booboo35

Good for you booboo. I just hope I am as strong as you are if this should happen to me. Hell, I am just praying that I don't see him!

victimnomore

Jan 24 - 10AM
Hunter
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Wahooooo! Rock on! Good Job!

Wahooooo! Rock on! Good Job! He still loves you? Really? They don't know what that means. I say leave the police out of it. If it happens again that's another story! Idealk
Jan 24 - 9AM
gettinbetter
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you rock!

Good for you!
Jan 24 - 7AM
helldweller
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booboo

yikes! what a way to start the week! Since he gave me the freeze out I live in fear now: will this/will this not happen to me one day? I forget who it was who posted the other day that he started banging on her door in the middle of the night after months of NC. I'm sorry you were shaken up like this. I wouldn't involve the police unless he bothers you again. He obviously just took advantage of happening to see you to see what he could get. Hopefully he'll go pick on someone else. Just be cautious. Enjoy your son's birthday!
Jan 24 - 7AM
onwithmylife
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BooBoo35

you should be proud of yourself, you handles yourself wonderfully!!! I would not get the police involved, he is just coming back for more supply, take a deep breathe and let this incident pass...it was a real shocker to your system. This board is a lifesaver, isn't it..YOUR GUT knows, if I had listened to mine, I would not have spent 15 years with the man and it was telling me early on too!!!