Physical appearance

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#1 Jun 17 - 6PM
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Physical appearance

Well here's yet another curiosity I hadn't really faced until today. It was hard to remember him crying, and me thinking it was real emotion, only to find out he was upset because he didn't find me attractive.

Anyway. I'm tall, 6 feet. I am not fat, but I did gain some weight and it got to him. I'm not saying any man should be happy joy joy when his woman gains weight. I knew it didn't make me look fab. I did what I could to lose it though, unfortunately in the worst way. I abused diet pills. I was shy of showing him my body during intimate times because he never really acted like any part of me was spectacular aside from my goodies.
He didn't like the way I dressed from the beginning and even went as far to suggest what I should wear that he finds attractive, and even though I tried in the end he gave up and insisted he was okay with how I dressed, as long as I knew he loved me...but he was quite unhappy with how I looked anyway.

I am learning to feel attractive again through my flaws. My teeth, my hands, my big old butt, my stomach (I had two kids, it's not totally flat)...etc.

I was wondering if anyone went through this with their Narc? What steps have you taken to feel attractive again without having to go over the top? I really don't have the money to go get an all out make over or pedicure or something haha.

Jun 17 - 10PM
ziggy
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I have no doubt you are all

Jun 17 - 9PM
thebigpayback
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i spend most of my teenage

Jun 18 - 9AM (Reply to #21)
spinning
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ROCK ON thebig payback...

spinning

Jun 17 - 8PM
Learningthehardway
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Oh well, let's see...

Jun 17 - 9PM (Reply to #18)
pumpkinpie
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The devaluing...I don't miss that!

Jun 18 - 9AM (Reply to #19)
Learningthehardway
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good one.

Jun 17 - 7PM
pumpkinpie
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Oh yes...

Jun 17 - 8PM (Reply to #12)
Learningthehardway
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thanks for the smile...

Jun 17 - 8PM (Reply to #13)
pumpkinpie
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Yeah -- "fluffy"

Jun 17 - 10PM (Reply to #16)
Learningthehardway
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A great response....

Jun 17 - 9PM (Reply to #14)
IncognitoBurrito
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No words!

Jun 17 - 9PM (Reply to #15)
pumpkinpie
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Hahaha -- IB, you're hilarious!

Jun 17 - 7PM
Im_always_fine
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They say a woman dresses

Jun 17 - 10PM (Reply to #10)
Learningthehardway
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omg i love you!

Jun 17 - 10PM (Reply to #6)
thebigpayback
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great tips on detoxing from

Jun 17 - 10PM (Reply to #7)
Im_always_fine
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My X before the NARC/pimp

Jun 17 - 10PM (Reply to #8)
pumpkinpie
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Nothing like a grown man

Jun 17 - 11PM (Reply to #9)
Im_always_fine
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Yeh it was a real cold

Jun 17 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
Learningthehardway
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I always dressed for men.

Jun 17 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
spt
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Aww, I like your color

Jun 17 - 7PM (Reply to #2)
spt
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Thank you so much! I'm glad

Jun 17 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
ItsFinallytime
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You're not the only one. Just