Parenting with the Narc--in a situation
Parenting with the Narc--in a situation
Ok so I've been NC basically for about 2 months---only responding to questions about our child and not to anything personal. My child was sick and to go to the Dr. and he demanded to be there--out of town 45 min drive. Ok so I'll meet you there--in the past I would get trapped into going with him and it was a terrible experience. So he calls to see if I'm there and I am but getting new insurance papers filled out(I had ins where I worked and after the divorce added my children--he is court ordered to have insurance on her but it was no more to add her since I had to add my son so I added her). I never told him cause it wasn't a big deal. Well it was a big deal. He goes off and wanted to know why in the crap I put her on my ins. Well it didn't cost me any more so why not. Long story short he raged on the phone til I said ok gotta go. So I meet him in the office and he says "I wasn't trying to be difficult it's just that there is no reason for you to do that." I responded back it was no increase cost 2 is better than 1 end of story. Since he played a role in me loosing my job I said, "well it ends at the end of this month and I don't think medicaid is going to pick her up so you can stop thinking about it". That seemed to pacify him---thinking I was without a job, without insurance and without him---so my adrenalin is going up up up. Then we get called back to the exam room--small room me and narc--not pleasant!! He tries to make small talk about his sick aunt and I answer short and sweet---now here's the deal. I feel guilty for being short like he was trying to be nice and I was all flat and short. Then he asks me to bring our child to a community(his home community) get together tonight. He has to work but since his work is in a car and on a when called basis he will be there serving and protecting. He wants me to bring her and let him entertain her and the public while I do what??? stand around like the devoted wife. So I felt all trapped and thinking, "O no I don't want to he's going to make me" then I remember, he's not my husband any more and I'm not required to do this for him anymore. so I say XXX(the community) really is not where I want to spend my Friday night. So he says in his oh so sad poor me tone, "yeah I know but I have to work and she wants to come" I said she's 3!!! So he calls my brother and tells him she's going. I know before today is over he's going to guilt me. Why in the world does this happen???? Am I required as am mother to do this? to endure him and his pals for a night of torture???
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