On the other side

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#1 Oct 25 - 10AM
Sparrow
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On the other side

As the famous line from the Grateful Dead reads.........."What a long, strange trip it's been" and it has been for the past 2 1/2 years. Mind numbing right up until the end. But, with that said, many, many things have been learned along the way that are extremely beneficial to us in many ways. We find the answers to many of our questions AND we find answers to questions we don't ask, never occur to us at the time, but eventually becomes prominent in our recovery.

As we heal from the initial raping of our souls, we concentrate on that one individual that has done so, later to discover that we are actually healing from many individuals that have affected us throughout our lifetime. It is what you learn during this time that will carry you through not only your recovery stage, but your life there after.

Your last leg of your journey is as important if not more important than the beginning, where you are healing physically and emotionally, this is where you not only use your knowledge and your power to fend off the future interests of the opposite sex, this is where you fend off any one who is unhealthy for you and you well being. Be it a family member, friend, co-worker, neighbor, anyone who makes you feel unjust in any way.

When you feel used by someone, when you feel like you are only good enough for others to befriend when they need someone, but you find they are not there for you in the same capacity, or when you are faced with an issue at work and your co-worker is not working "with" you, but against you, or when you learn that those you thought were true to you and learn later really weren't, that is when you need to back up, remember your experience with the narc that brought you here in the first place and realize that these people are sucking the life out of you as well.

This is where you need to make the changes in your life that are of the utmost in order to move forward and live far beyond the world of NPD and any other disorder for that matter. Recognize those that are unhealthy to you, cut them loose and accept only those in your life that are healthy for you. You may find that you will be standing with only a few by your side but thats ok, better to have a few good eggs opposed to a dozen rotten eggs.

Decide for yourself what it is in life that YOU want and that YOU need. Because in the end, it is YOU that is ultimately affected by what you allow others to do to you, no one else. Care enough about yourself, want more for yourself and never for a minute settle for anything less than that because you are worth it.

And that man in your life, you know, the one who's brain is like a bingo ball cage, that you can't quite make sense of most of the time, you will find one day when he is far removed from your life, that it wasn't you that was crazy, it wasn't you that was spinning, your emotional state was simply a result of his craziness.......B-4...BINGO!

When you come full circle, you will see what I am talking about. And your tolerance for others will be minimum. Keep the ones that give to you in the way you give to them. The takers, leave them behind, they will only result in dead weight later down the road.

If I never speak of the disordered again, I will be a happy camper. This chapter, or these many chapters in my life are now at a close. Nothing but good for now on.

My best to all of you as you struggle throughout to find your way. Never give up, you will get there, as I did. A little bumped and bruised, but there.........and that is what matters. Life is good, you only get one, leave this crazy BS behind you eventually. There is no room for it in your life.

Peace/Love/Hugs

Sparrow

Oct 27 - 7AM
Deidre99
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I read this yesterday, and

Oct 26 - 12PM
shock and awe.some
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yes I am crying Sparrow

Oct 26 - 1AM
neverlookback
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recovering

Oct 25 - 9PM
Dragonlady
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Bye Sparrow

Oct 25 - 1PM
Sparrow
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Thank you Snowflake, I

Oct 25 - 11AM
Kukla
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Sparrow

Oct 25 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
Snowflake
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((((( Sparrow))))