Ok so Im confused here

Narcs and psychopaths prey on the weak, damaged inner souls. Often to the outside we appears as strong, intelligent, beautiful women, yet deep down inside there is still a chink in our armour. This is what they bank on; this is what they look for. A woman who for whatever reason believes in the fantacy of love. Believes in working on the relationship; regardless to the glaring red flags. Has a deep down sense of low self image and esteem, and will question her instincts when manipulated. This does not happen to everyone. Only to someone who has some inner issues still left unresolved. So basically they look for the best of the best with inner unfinished business and when they first meet you, they connect with your best of the best image and then as they begin to work on you, they connect with and attack your unresolved inner conflicts. There is no love here, no sense of trying to help you to overcome or better yourself. They go for your weak points and slowly use these against you and chip away at them until you are under their control. It this your fault? Well not exactly in the traditional sense. No, no one should be destroyed by what is weak in them, yet the preditor looks for this and uses this to take you down and gain complete control over you through that in you which is weak. When doing the recovery and healing part of the work, these are the area's which need to be strengthened so that you are no longer considered prey to another, moving forward. Plus is you have these weaknesses, wounded area's, you want to heal them for your own benefit so that you will eventually feel more worthy and deserving or the real deal. A loving relationship with a loving man and not a sick twisted relationship with a wounded woman and a twisted sadist who derives pleasure from your pain and your weakness. Strengthen yourself and begin to become gentle and loving with yourself for all that you have been through and the natural progression will be a more loving give and take with your relationships. Let go of the fear, let go of the self doubt and insecurity, and the rest will happen. God bless, Goldie

Now I am confused.........you had jealousy issues because you were molested? I am not following what you mean by that. And hynosis, changed everything? If you believe he did things to mess you up, I suggest you read up on "gaslighting" he very well could have done these things, only you would know. As far as figuring out what is yours to heal......it will come to you, but you need to start your journey at the beginning, which means, you need to journey back to the time you were first violated, molested. Please do this with the help of a professional. Revisiting those horrors, should not be done alone. But yes, you must repair what was ripped from you all those years ago in order to heal properly. The rest will come, it's kind of like putting together a jigsaw puzzle. You will find all the pieces, in time, during your journey to healing. Good luck! And stay strong!