OK - Let's balance this up : What the most romantic thing they ever did?

I think the point of my post was to try to balance out all the horrible stuff we remember about our ex's. I don't now see myself as a victim - I am a survivor. And in my book that's where we all aim to be one day. So, I view being able to assess what was good and what was bad as part of the process. It doesn't make me sit here and yearn for the ex, I am well past that stage. I actually find it cathartic in a way because it shows me that I wasn't an absolute fool to have been involved with him because occasionally he did appear normal. That's what kept me stuck for so long. Forgiveness is also part of healing. I think I may have reached that stage - in that, I forgive MYSELF for having been involved with him and that's how I can remember this stuff without being triggered. I apologise if it triggered bad memories for any of you, that truly was not my aim. I also feel that if I can come out of this nightmare with a balanced view then, I have won ten-fold. My ultimate goal is to go forward as a whole, balanced, aware and healthier woman who can rely on her feelings and emotions to know the difference between healthy and unhealthy men in the future. Then the ex will not have won and destroyed me forever - he does not hold the power anymore. I do. Thanks for all your responses. Dee x