Oh ppplllease

I just learned that my STBX is rewriting history to show that he was a victim and me heartless. Not surprising and I should have anticipated this. It's just so frustrating. He basically didn't work or take care of the children (so I could work) but rather lived a life of leisure and self indulgence. Now he is trying to make it seem like he only did this for a short time while suffering depression over the loss of his sister. So it makes me look like I kicked him while he was down by leaving him, and like he's basically a good upstanding guy who just went through an (understandably) difficult time. Problem is of course that this is all grossly inaccurate. He had plenty of energy through the entire "grieving" process (never saw him cry) to do all the things he wanted to do (surf, go out with friends, etc.) And this went on long before she died and in fact I left for a while because of it months before she passed. But of course people buy the lie - it sounds good and they don't want to believe the truth. No one would be THAT lazy and entitled, right? Oh yes they would. A narc would, and he would throw the true victim under the bus to boot. I hate them.