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#1 Jun 17 - 11AM
ewa
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N's birthday

In not even 2 weeks it will be my ex N's birthday. Do you think he will notice it if i will ignore it and will not sent him any bday wishes? I don't sent them because it would mean i would have to break NC.
Few months ago after we broke up at 7 in the morning i got sms saying "Happy Birthday!" from him and that was it. I know he likes to be first one if is about BDay wishes as he thinks it makes him or his wishes more special in a way.

Any of you have ignored the birthday of your exN and got some bad reaction because of it?

Jun 17 - 4PM
Bodhi
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Yup

I didn't wish my ex Happy Birthday 4 months after we broke up, and he got drunk and wrote a nasty blog about me. I spent several days completely broken up over it. You don't owe him anything. My wish for you would be to try to not think about him and do something special for you! :)
Jun 17 - 4PM (Reply to #12)
ewa
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if there was a way

If there was a way of erasing him from all this memories from the last almost 3 years i would do it. I wished there was some hypnotherapy who would allow me to forget the person forever. For now i am happy that i managed to stop emailing him. I am happy that i made a progress and blocked him on email and chat. I am happy that i deleted his phone nr. This are baby steps which allows me to move forward. And i even started to find other men attractive :). But i still think of him. I know it would be easier if he was not working in the same company. I wished this process of forgetting N totally was quicker...
Jun 17 - 10PM (Reply to #13)
Bodhi
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Its a process... but it

Its a process... but it sounds like your doing a great job. Just remember to have some compassion for yourself and be proud for what you have already accomplished.
Jun 17 - 2PM
smileyfacepr
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who cares??

Who cares what his damn reaction is??? On my XN bday I couldnt think about anything else, but I was not gonna break NC so I didnt! He knows I remembered!!! Did he call me for thanksgiving? NO! Did he call me for x-mas? NO! did he call me for new yrs? NO! Did he call me for MY bday? NO!I know he remembered! Did he call me for mothers day? NO!SREW THEM..ASSHOLES!!!!

smileyfacepr

Jun 17 - 11AM
Janet
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I ignored his birthday and

I ignored his birthday and got no reaction. It does not matter, he is no longer a part of your life. Ignore it and try not look for any reaction and ignore him if that happens. He is not you 7 year old son, no need to acknowledge him. Peace. J

Peace. J

Jun 17 - 11AM (Reply to #9)
ewa
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Janet

To be honest i wished there will be no reaction, I just want to prepare myself in case there would be
Jun 17 - 11AM
ewa
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i meant

I meant i don't want to send them..
Jun 17 - 12PM (Reply to #6)
Lisa E. Scott
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Ewa

Like you said, you don't want to send him b-day wishes so stick to that. He doesn't deserve that from you. He doesn't deserve anything from you anymore!
Jun 17 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
ewa
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I can

I can assure you guys that i will not send him the bday wishes..Maybe by that time he will find new OW and there will be no problem :)
Jun 17 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
Janet
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All I am saying is that it

All I am saying is that it is hard no believe and accept that they just don't care and birthdays are filled with memories. I got no reaction from him when I ignored it, he is living with OW now and so I guess he is satiated. NC. Think about it, you are actually thinking about his b'day which is 2 weeks away, he, I am sure, does not give you the same amount of thought. Peace. J

Peace. J

Jun 17 - 12PM (Reply to #3)
ewa
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Janet

Yes i know i should not think of it but i do. In fact last his birthday bring bad memories only, he went for his language class and then disappeared for few hours with some girl for a drink, because she was supposed to go back to her country and he needed to say goodbye. And of course i was not invited there...Actually i was thinking about my 1 month anniversary of NC which is coming and i have realized his bday is around this time..and it made me to think of it. I know his OW dumped him and he is now looking for a new one. I hope Janet it will be like in your case and i will not get any reaction..
Jun 17 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
Introspection
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And if you get a reaction...ignore it....

from here on, he no longer exists. You mentioned that you find other men attractive ;-)...I am sooo happy for you. Hang in there sweetheart, this too shall pass.
Jun 17 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
hitandrun
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I agree

Don't acknowledge his b-day. It will be hard, but I know you can do it.