Not Sure what is with the super tough love

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#1 Jul 19 - 4PM
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Not Sure what is with the super tough love

Hi guys,

I just wanted to say thank you for those who have been supportive and loving. I am starting to feel like there is some shaming going on in some peoples responses. I assume everyone comes here because they feel a sense of loss or a sense of being broken by the past N. Digging up the root issues and realizing you didn't mean shit to someone you once cared about can leave people feeling humbled and disarmed as it is. I know for myself anyway that I already carry a great deal of shame for allowing myself to stay in something that I understand now to be unreal... I have been a bit shocked and felt belittled at times when I have an honest question ( from people who have been there before ) and I get a harsh response. I don't think it has to be kittens and unicorns but I know all of us women and men process things differently. We are of different ages and have different pasts. I guess for me what I am trying to say is that I am starting to feel like I can't post what I am honestly going through without being shamed for it....not with everyone just some... I think we should all be understanding ...loving and supportive...after all we have been through enough ( anyone who has dated a Narc has)...

Jul 24 - 6AM
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setmefree

Jul 22 - 1PM
setmefree
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hunter

Jul 22 - 2PM (Reply to #41)
Hunter
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So if you know what works and

Jul 22 - 2PM (Reply to #42)
setmefree
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I am

Jul 23 - 6AM (Reply to #44)
jackguy
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setmefree

Jul 23 - 10PM (Reply to #46)
lookingahead
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I couldnt have said it better.

Jul 23 - 10AM (Reply to #45)
setmefree
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jack guy

Jul 22 - 2PM (Reply to #43)
Hunter
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What I wrote was not for your

Jul 22 - 12PM
Hunter
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Tough Love

Jul 22 - 2AM
SECM1968
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I have felt the same . . .

Jul 22 - 12AM
setmefree
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Was not meant to be a debate

Jul 22 - 5AM (Reply to #37)
Learningthehardway
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First of all.....

Jul 22 - 1AM (Reply to #36)
Pumpkin
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I haven't

Pumpkin

Jul 21 - 11PM
setmefree
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My Intention

Jul 21 - 10AM
TruthbeginsToday
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A perspective, my letting go of old thinking was not easy

Jul 21 - 7AM
setmefree
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Journey

Jul 21 - 8AM (Reply to #30)
Learningthehardway
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Tone...

Jul 22 - 12AM (Reply to #31)
setmefree
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Thank you

Jul 22 - 5AM (Reply to #32)
Learningthehardway
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I've felt the same at times...

Jul 21 - 8AM (Reply to #29)
Janie53
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setmefree

Jul 20 - 8PM
Journey
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"I am starting to feel like I

Journey on...

Jul 21 - 9AM (Reply to #27)
Used
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journey

Jul 20 - 6PM
fefe65
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I have seen things on here I

Jul 20 - 6AM
whitecastle (not verified)
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Personally I agree. It's not

Jul 20 - 3PM (Reply to #21)
setmefree
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I am not saying

Jul 21 - 8AM (Reply to #24)
ItsFinallytime
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I'm curious ... In a perfect

Jul 20 - 7PM (Reply to #22)
Journey
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Setmefree, as a long standing

Journey on...

Jul 21 - 5AM (Reply to #23)
Luckyescape
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Tough love

Jul 20 - 12PM (Reply to #20)
Im_always_fine
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I agree. I get tremendous

Jul 19 - 10PM
Im_always_fine
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I talk to people here exactly