This is NOT LOVE

I wrote this list after reading what Goldie wrote about 'what's NOT love':

ABUSE IS NOT LOVE, obsession is not love, addiction is not love, sex alone; is not love.

Sex is sex and love is love. http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2012/11/12/people-treat-us-way-we-allow-...

I hope you all will add more to the list I made, I'm sure you have examples like these too...

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1. Making cruel sadistic 'jokes' is NOT LOVE

* Saying that he is going to rip off my skin and torture me, is NOT LOVE (it was 'just a joke, Alissa!')

* Saying that he is going to cut off my (*****) and sew my lips together, is NOT LOVE ( 'just a joke, Alissa!')

* Saying that he is going to stuff my head in the toilet until I suffocate, is NOT LOVE ('just a joke, Alissa!')

2. Yelling at me to 'go away!' is NOT LOVE

3. Greeting my body first by touching me in intimate places right away is NOT LOVE

4. Leaving me alone after sex is NOT LOVE

5. Suggesting to go upstairs and have sex, even when I'm crying and upset about everything, is NOT LOVE

6. Pinching me hard in my legs and continuing to do so when I say it hurts, is NOT LOVE

7. Forcing himself inside of me while I tell him to stop, is NOT LOVE

8. Giving the silent treatment to me, is NOT LOVE

9. Blaming me for everything (while I tried to be very good!), is NOT LOVE

10. Ignoring my emails and lying that he is busy, is NOT LOVE

11. Telling me to have no expectations of him, is NOT LOVE

12. Wanting to ejaculate on my back, is NOT LOVE

13. Wanting to ejaculate in my face, is NOT LOVE

14. Always asking for nude pictures, is NOT LOVE

15. Going on a vacation without saying goodbye, is NOT LOVE

16. Getting mad when I feel sad about it all, is NOT LOVE

17. Not responding to my 'I miss you, I love you, you're special to me', is NOT LOVE

18. Making me walk on egg shells , is NOT LOVE

19. Forgetting my birthday, is NOT LOVE

20. Lovebombing me and then going quiet on me again, is NOT LOVE

21. Calling me Porn Alissa, is NOT LOVE (again, it was 'just a joke')

22. Constantly hot/ cold/ hot/ cold, is NOT LOVE

23. Always ending it by saying 'it's not going to work', is NOT LOVE

24. Ignoring my boundaries, is NOT LOVE

25. Putting pressure on me all the time, is NOT LOVE

26. Always wanting quickies, is NOT LOVE

27. Being ok with having quickies only, is NOT LOVE

28. Touching me aggressively and walking away (all within a matter of 5 minutes) , is NOT LOVE

29. Telling me to wear no undies and being annoyed when I don't obey, is NOT LOVE

30. Telling me that he has absolutely no troubles over ending it, is NOT LOVE

31. Saying that he sleeps perfectly fine at night after arguments, is NOT LOVE

32. Refusing to make things ok after a fight as soon as possible , is NOT LOVE

33. Telling me that he wants us to make a 'smeary mess' (sex), is NOT LOVE

34. Staying away from our email account and not emailing me for days and days, is NOT LOVE

35. Telling me that he is pleased when I obey him when he tells me 'go away', is NOT LOVE

36. Sometimes NOT giving me a drink when he's having a drink, is NOT LOVE

37. Constantly talking about sex/ masturbation/ horniness, is NOT LOVE

38. Showing inconsistent behavior, is NOT LOVE

39. F*cking with my mind, is NOT LOVE

40. Punishing me for doing everything wrong, is NOT LOVE

41. Always changing the 'rules' , is NOT LOVE