Last night I had such fun with my husband and two other couples.
All of us are in our 40's and have been married for a number of years. I realized as we socialized, Gee this is normal, My husband told me I looked pretty and the two other couples interacted happily with each other.
I think we are so busy focusing on Abnormal rather than normal.
There is normal out there. Find it and embrace it.
I think the time with my narc was a fun escape, long term things would have ended the same. I now realize how he tried to mirror me. When I look back he has no class. It was all his Fantasy Island.
My Narc is a boring GNOME!
My Point is see it for what it was, These guys have no sense of self.