Nightmares ....

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#1 Sep 24 - 10AM

confused123

Nightmares ....

Anyone else suffered from them yet ? ....

I had one last night and it was so vivid , weird and terrifying ... so i will share , it isnt long ... it felt about 5 minutes long ...

In this night mare i was involved with the chinese mafia ... i was a prostitute ... and forced to have sex with the Boss ... Though it was mainly rape because i didn't want to be a prostitute ! .... i tried pushing him off me and managed ... but then he went after me with a syringe and started injecting me with petrol ??? .... i managed to rid him again , ran from my bedroom and to my sons room where he was fast asleep and tryed to shut him out to protect my son ... i looked out the door and he was coming at me with not just a gun ... a machine gun!! .... i managed to shut the door but he was blowing holes in it .... then i woke up terrified .... i looked it up on dream interpretations today and heres what i got ....

CHINESE - To hear or speak a foreign language in your dream, indicates a message from your unconscious that you do not yet understand. Alternatively, you may not be making yourself clear to others.

PROSTITUTION- To dream that you are a prostitute, indicates your desires for more sexual freedom/expression and sexual power. You want to be less inhibited. Your waking principle are too rigid. On a negative side, you may be harboring negative attitudes toward relationships. You are having difficulties integrating love and sexuality. Alternatively, the dream may be a metaphor suggesting that you are "prostituting" yourself in some situation emotionally or morally. Are you selling yourself in some way?

INJECTION - To dream that someone is forcibly injecting you, represents your negative attitudes about a particular situation/person. It also indicates the influence of peer pressure working against you. You are recognizing that someone is forcing their negative and unwelcome beliefs and morals

GUN - To see a gun in your dream, symbolizes aggression, anger, and potential danger. You may be dealing with issues of passiveness/aggressiveness and authority/dependence. Alternatively, a gun represents the penis and male sexual drive. Thus, the gun may mean power or impotence, depending on whether the gun went off or misfired.To dream that someone is shooting you with a gun, suggests that you are experiencing some confrontation in your waking life. You may feel victimized in some situation.

anyone else experienced this??

#2 Sep 25 - 12PM

neveragain

Horrid Dreams BUT Very Revealing

When I left my first husband (my first big N relationship) he had threatened me quite a bit. It was a living nightmare. So, in my dreams at night, he was always coming to get me. I'll never forget the worst one: I was in a new place and I was safe there. But he came to the door and I had it barricaded so he couldn't get in. He was yelling, screaming and snarling that he was going to come in and give me what I deserved. He began pounding on the door with a heavy object. All of a sudden, the door splintered apart because he was ramming a big log into it. The door basically disinitegrated and he came at me with the log to bash in my head. That's when I woke up. There were many other dreams where he was chasing me but that one was the one I remember the most. This was about 19 years ago. My second husband was also an N....huh, imagine that. When I left him, I had a dream where he was standing in a kitchen and I was in the next room. I could see him standing there and what I saw was horrific. It was HIM but his head was over-sized, distorted, skull-like with more than half his face gone. He was hideous. I remember asking God in my dream, "Why are you showing me this?" and He answered, "Because this is what he really is." Then I woke up. Looking back, I now realize that I was seeing him without his mask on and he was a monster. Dreams are very revealing and will sometimes give us clues to things we don't understand in our waking lives. I study dreams and look up meanings in dream dictionaries. It's very enlightening. neveragain

#3 Sep 25 - 10AM

cynthia (not verified)

dreams

that sounds as crazy as my dream, Mine was a cop, still is I was dreaming I was stuck in a bad part of town and these killers were after me I was running and hiding behind homes and I went to call my Narc cop to help me and he said he was too busy, I was on my own, ha ha Sad thing in real life he would have done the same. God I remember the nightmares, other women he was with in front of me, ignoring me, I actually would wake up with tears on my face, I cried in my sleep for gods sake. all my dreams were related to abandonment, every single one, guess I knew in my heart he would do that in the end.

#4 Sep 25 - 9AM

GhostBuster

Foreshadowing dream

I've never had nightmares about my Ns (that I remember), but I did have a very foreshadowing dream just before my 2nd N's mask fell off, which makes me think my subconscious was starting to see him for who he really was. The dream was I was at a cousin's house and I had a baby. And I kept setting the baby down, return to where I set him down, and then the baby was gone. And when I'd find the baby somewhere else, the baby had my N's grown-up face. The baby would interchange from an infant to the N. And at times I was carrying the N around like a baby. And then at the very end, the N's face turned into my dog's face. I think somewhere buried, I was beginning to see that N was a big baby! :) And given that the last straw that led me to return his engagement ring was death threats against my dog and N insisting I get rid of the dog....hmmmm. Maybe my subconscious saw what was coming...

#5 Sep 24 - 5PM

grossot

nightmares and terrors

Thanks for posting on this subject. You've all experienced horrific nightmares and I'm sorry that has to happen. My psychiatrist says the less we talk about what's bothering us the more we dream about it so the subconscious can have an outlet. I'd like to address a dream I used to have when I was dating him. It's rather difficult to explain but I always wondered about it and it has stuck with me for 12 years: I was arriving at N's house (ie: his parent's as we were teens) but it wasn't his house;just was in my dream. As I was walking in I was drawn to the basement. Down there was a series of intertwining tunnels and barely lit. I was always intrigued (even tho I had this dream reaccuringly). Anyway at the end of the tunnel was a boiler room. I would open the heavy door and crawl into to a room with a bed and he was always waiting on it for me. I was always so excited. The room was small and enclosed with lots of stuff in it (although I do not recall what). The room had a funny lighting about it like light from a fire but didn't see one. He never got up to greet me just opened his arms and waited for me to come to him. I would....then the door would close and that was it. Now...post N unveiling, I'm having some terrors where I feel him walking around my bed and then leaning over to kiss me but I wake up just in time. Then I have a nightmare where I'm trapped in a bathtub with him (no water, no clothes). I am both aroused and terrified at the same time. Wierd. Praying that everyone's n'mares end. How did our dreams come true manifest into nightmares? ~Give a Narc an inch and they become the ruler~ nolongercontrolled

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#6 Sep 24 - 6PM (Reply to #11)

quietude (not verified)

grossot

I'm so glad you mentioned this: "My psychiatrist says the less we talk about what's bothering us the more we dream about it so the subconscious can have an outlet". And thank you for saying it - I have had a few invalidating comments from those who really don't get it that talking about it, reading, being on the forums, etc is "keeping" me in this place, as in...not progressing. I correct them by saying if I was still "in a bad place", I'd be WITH him...HELLOOOOOO??!

#7 Sep 24 - 8PM (Reply to #12)

Barbara (not verified)

nightmares

the nightmares started for me when my kids were born - I had post partum depression and dreamed about being alone and someone harming my kids, taking them away. exNH was always ABSENT from these dreams. SURPRISE (not!) After Psycho-Boy I found out about 10 months afterward he was googling my nicknames and following me to many boards for victims, abuse support and even medical support for my health issues. He was copying it all and later used it against me after twisting it. Of course, he now accuses ME of stalking him online & off... puhleeze!!!! Once I found out he was doing that I was afraid to talk to anyone but my therapist about it - and the nightmares started up almost immediately. Every time he was about to physically touch me in a dream I woke up with start! Although what's odd is I had a number of "foreshadowing" dreams DURING my relationship with him (the second, latest relationship). I couldn't makes sense of them at the time, now I can. Like my Higher Self was trying to tell me something. I need a bath with brillo just thinking about it. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.

#8 Sep 24 - 11AM

quietude (not verified)

confused

Yes, I had a weird dream a few weeks ago, where at the end my ex pulled a gun on me and I ran away fast, but woke up...so, no idea if he pulled the trigger or not...yikes!

#9 Sep 24 - 11AM (Reply to #9)

confused123

OMG ! Needles and guns !!

OMG ! Needles and guns !! For quite a few !! ... I'm glad im booked into see the nurse now , im coming to the conclusion something is wrong with me .... in mine the guy started shooting at the door as i was sat against it and i woke up ... i was in a trance of was i dead or wasn't i ? C xx

#10 Sep 24 - 11AM

calamity-g

nightmares

I've been with two psychos/Ns and both times had nightmares. The first guy was the worst. The second and recent one who I am shaking over as I write b/c I just got one of his calculated emails, my nightmares about him began just before he "changed." His best friend was in the other room having ses with a woman. This woman was upset. I was in a dark room listening but very confused. My N was involved in it all. I helped the woman escape but I was still there. I walked in the other room to confront the friend (in real life this friend is ex-mafia, ex-con for ten years, and now at 55 is dealing drugs again!), back to n'mare-- when I walked into the room there were long black straps and a needle. He had injected this woman with a drug and she had not known. Later, in real life, my N came to visit after I had broke it off. He brought his camera and the long black straps were there. He walked into my bedroom where it was dark. He put the camera down on my desk in a corner. My big dog cornered him and I really thought he was going to bite him but he didn't. I tried moving the camera and taking it back into the other room. I did not want him or his camera in my bedroom and he ran over to it before I could get to it. That is when the dog cornered him. It was actually the only time I've seen fear in this man's eyes. The first N. OMG!! I used to dream that Satin himself came into my home, burning my furniture and there would be snakes crawling all over my body. The guy would tell me I must have had a terrible childhood to have those dreams. Finally my therapist had to get really straight with me and told me that none of what was happening to me had a damn thing to do with my childhood, and it didn't. Those were horrible nightmares. I just try to not think about those and they stopped when I finally got away. calamity gina

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#11 Sep 24 - 11AM (Reply to #7)

confused123

Hi x

Oh my god gina , they sound so horrible !! Im so sorry !! .. Thats both of us who have dreamt about needles ??? How strange , wonder if any of it is related with the narcissist .. i mean obviously it will be but ... wow ... wonder what aspect ... from you telling me your story just then i just had a flashback of a dream i had whilst i was with him ... i dreamt i caught him having sex with his own mother !! :( ... that was awful too! ... having talked to barbara on here i think hes a victim of covert incest and she has problems too , but didn't realise any of this untill i came on this forum ... they have a very sickly relationship , almost like THEY are in the relationship ... but i remember telling my N about it , i was quite disturbed by that dream and he laughed about it ... and asked why on earth i dream about such things ... i dunno ?? cant help what i dream can i ?? LOL X warm hugs - C xx

#12 Sep 24 - 11AM

nhtmf

WOW !!! Confused, that must

WOW !!! Confused, that must have scared the crap out of you. Wish I had your book. My nightmares are of him in the house just walking around. Never hear a door open or close. But hear the footsteps leave and come back, still walking all around. Only thing with me is it is so intrusive that I wake up and still hear the footsteps for a while until I hear them heading for the door. As this is happening I lie in bed shaking so badly that the whole bed vibrates. My therapist in PA where I was living before told me it was him in my house and I accepted that as he had extra keys made and hidden. I found a few. Anyway, since then I've moved 1000 miles away and it is still happening!!!!! Guess it wasn't him before either, huh? I have never experienced this before in my 55 years on this planet so once again thanks bozoboy. Now I'm the nut? PTSD is not my friend..........Deb

#13 Sep 24 - 11AM (Reply to #2)

confused123

Hey deb! ....Wow your

Hey deb! .... Wow your dreams seem quite recurrant! how scary *hugs* ... this was just my first nightmare , but i knew it was something realted to my state of mind ... and when i looked up the parts that stuck in my mind from the dream i was shocked actually i could relate so much meaning to what i have been through ... especially the gun and passive aggression .... Good luck with your counsellor hun , my friends have pursuaded me to see one ... and i have booked in next week to see the nurse .. however i'm just worried that if i don't break down in tears she will think nothing is wrong ... that probably sounds silly , but i'm so numb physically even though my mind is all over ... even when asleep now ! C xxx

#14 Sep 24 - 4PM (Reply to #5)

nhtmf

New couselor and new area,

New couselor and new area, fingers crossed !!!! Deb

#15 Sep 24 - 12PM (Reply to #3)

dolce (not verified)

No. Unfortunately all of my

No. Unfortunately all of my nightmares occurred while I was awake. The bastard. ~Free to Be~

#16 Sep 24 - 4PM (Reply to #4)

nhtmf

Dolce, yeah awake or asleep

Dolce, yeah awake or asleep N's make us feel very OUT OF CONTROL.......Wish there was an off button. Where did that remote go anyway? I'd be removing the batteries. Deb

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