The new Supply is also a Narcissist - How does that or can that work?

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#1 Jun 15 - 7PM

MovingForward

The new Supply is also a Narcissist - How does that or can that work?

Has anyone experienced their replacement being a Narcissist as well. Can two Narcissist have a successful replationship.
Wouldn't they both be demamding of each others attention and adulation but not willing to give? Both be selfish, greedy, taking but not giving.

Any ideas?

#2 Jun 16 - 2PM

dudette

the one who is a P

as well as an N wins....:-) The other one is left trolling for supply urgently, having been too self-important to see that one coming.... xxxxx

#3 Jun 16 - 3PM (Reply to #15)

MovingForward

Love It !

#4 Jun 17 - 7AM (Reply to #16)

dudette

yup!

:-)

#5 Jun 16 - 8AM

BadaBing

just read SamV the other day

and he wrote an article on 2 narcs getting together one had to somatic and one had to cerebral (I think I have those terms right!) it can work to be a working relationship I find these types are shallow and neurotic and eventually sabotage their relationship no matter N or not

#6 Jun 16 - 4PM

onwithmylife

my

ex narc married wife #3 who is a narc herself, they were married for 10 years and live together for 6 months and wound up with 2 kids, go figure,he liked it when they fought, made up through sex and she wanted babies, enough said, all so sick and twisted.....they divorced when she found a nice man who was not a narc and would put up with her.

#7 Jun 16 - 5AM

Lobo555

I wonder if

I wonder if CharlieSheenWinning's wife is a narc. I know nothing about her except that she's tall, blonde, and married him after 3 weeks of knowing him. She's also rich and a big drinker. I heard she and CharlieSheenWinning have been drunk for 2 1/2 months straight now. (Is that even possible, though????) My uneducated guess is that *something* is going on! Oh, and her FB profile pic is of herself in a bikini. >.

#8 Jun 15 - 9PM

Puzzle

My ex's ex gf was a Narc.

My ex's ex gf was a Narc. They were together for 4 years, 5 years have passed and she still chases him and they have some kind of weird friendship. I recently saw her at a wedding and she treated me like I was the imposition. After 5 years she still hoovered...It drove me nuts, but having since met her I realise she is a Narc too. She thinks she is amazing and even had the guts to go up to my Narc and I and question him about things. I always wondered why she never went away, she was a Narc too and cheated on him and made him the worst bf in the world....thanks ex gf.

#9 Jun 16 - 4AM (Reply to #8)

Cgrl

Does not matter

It does not matter. The goal is to get you safe, healthy and away from him. The goal is for you to find a real healthy relationship with yourself and someone else. Who cares who he is with- narc or not narc he is going to treat them the same shitty way. I was starting to think I was one too because they have you so brainwashed. Who wants this in thier lives. We want healthy relationships without all the push-pull and the abandonment and the crap. We want to roll over in the morning and see a man there saying "I love you" and mean it. We don't want to manage someones moods and watch what we say around them. Let them go have thier drama with whomever- we get to have a fantastic relationship some day without all the crap.

#10 Jun 17 - 12PM (Reply to #10)

fearofuncertainty

too true

thanks cgrl, it really doesn't matter. it can't be so true and I can't high five more to all the wisdom from your truthful words. they reveal everything I can imagine from the bottom of my heart. let's await a fantastic relationship someday definitely without all the crap. big huggggg!

#11 Jun 16 - 6AM (Reply to #9)

MovingForward

Thank you, best advice I

Thank you, best advice I needed. In the back of my head I fear of the new relationship working or lasting. I too felt I started to be come a bit Narcissistic. I began to believe the crap I was being told about trusting people and nothing lasts forever. I was also told that your kids are supposed to grow up, get their own life, move away and there should be no contact either way. Her beliefs were so far fetched and out of touch with what relationships (all relationships) are supposed to be about. The main thing I got out of her way of thinking was there should be total lack of committment in all relationships. Really sad.

#12 Jun 15 - 8PM

greengirl91

The ex N has bounced back and

The ex N has bounced back and forth with me and his OW, still a Narc. They are mean, unfaithful and they know it. Maybe if they stay together, they let loving, caring people be, right?

#13 Jun 15 - 7PM

Susan32

It might work

Eva Duarte slept her way to the top... she became Eva Peron. Both she&Juan were Narcs. "Evita" is a great musical about "love" between Narcs. Napoleon was a Narc... his first wife, Josephine (who was 9 years older than him), used men for sex&money. Their union is described as a great love story... but they both cheated on each other. Napoleon famously said of Josephine that she truly loved her, but didn't respect her. He mourned her death (his second wife, Marie Louise of Austria, didn't join him in exile on Elba) Ferdinand&Imelda Marcos were both Narcs. Like Eva Peron, Imelda was a famous beauty queen when she caught Ferdinand's eyes. (I suggest David Byrne's "Here lies love",his rock opera about Imelda Marcos with singers like Sia, Cyndi Lauper, Tori Amos, Natalie Merchant) My maternal grandparents were BOTH Narcs. Narcs tend to end up together.

#14 Jun 15 - 9PM (Reply to #4)

Sparrow

Great references to music

Great references to music Susan! Love it! Huge David Byrne and Natalie Merchant fan! Also, great references to great love stories...........pay attention to the endings though, just saying.....awful people, awful lives really. but GREAT love stories. I believe that everyone has a bit of the N in them, they have to in order to be productive in society. And with that, they can be successful in their story. But what we are dealing with, and never lose sight of, is the EXTREME. We all know this is wrong, we all know we deserve something different, better, we yearn for these men in our lives for a reason, not because we are weak, because we have a void, just like them, yet different.

#15 Jun 16 - 6PM (Reply to #5)

Susan32

The Tolstoys

Sofia Tolstoy became a Narc after 48 years of marriage to a colossal Narc, Leo. It's what Sam Vaknin calls the "narcissistic curtain call"-when the victim of narcissistic abuse becomes a narcissist. Sorta like Bella becoming a vampire in "Breaking Dawn"-she sacrifices her humanity to be with Edward;after her transformation, she realizes she thirsts for her father's blood, but refrains from attacking him. "The Last Station" with Helen Mirren and Christopher Plummer is an EXCELLENT portrayal of the Tolstoys' marriage;the sole inaccuracy is when classical music calms&soothes Leo at a family gathering. Plummer was channeling Captain Von Trapp, NOT Leo Tolstoy. The Austrian captain was pacified through music&a singing nanny for his children; the Russian writer became increasingly prejudiced AGAINST music as he grew older. "Awful people, awful lives"-One need only read what became of Eva Peron's body. Juan Peron couldn't bear the sight of Eva when she was dying from cervical cancer, so he made her wear a mask. After she died, he&his third wife (who's still alive) carefully tended her body, combing her hair, putting on her make-up. Juan took better care of Eva when she was DEAD.

#16 Jun 15 - 7PM

Hunter

Narc to Narc

It's a tug of war a power struggle! Two pit Bulls at each others throat, My narcs mother is a narc each continues to go back for more time and time again,blow up after blow up, As far as I'm concerned they belong together , Hunter

#17 Jun 16 - 12PM (Reply to #2)

Thunderbolt

As you may remember I am

As you may remember I am stuck living with my ex NPD BF for a while longer. And I'm actually now fine about it. I'm very busy working to get the money to move out. He is now seeing 2-3 girls as of the last week. 1 of them is a complete raging Somatic N, he is also a Somatic N. They were FWB a couple years ago, because she thinks she is too special to ever date anyone person alone. She a very rich ( family came from Iran in the 1970s with bags of money basically) and very anorexic. Two traits the ex NPD wished I had had ! Anyway, I'm sure they will implode yet again (he stopped seeing her to date me starting two years ago) So a relationship two Ns is nothing but a powder keg waiting to go off.

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