The New Squeeze

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#1 Oct 30 - 12AM
Anonymous (not verified)
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The New Squeeze

I've just had a zing moment. My N is a jerk. A pure live awful horrible jerk. He can't love. He was never going to bring me out with friends and family. Ever. He doesn't see one woman as more valuable over another. We are all templates to him, it doesn't matter what we look what, who is prettier, who is thinner. He doesn't care.

He is still LD with the GF. And he has a new squeeze he is doing the same things to her as to me and the GF. He is deleting wall posts on FB she wrote. He is covering his tracks big this time because I caught him out last time and now he is more careful about his FB and online profiles so people don't figure him out. The GF is overseas, this is going to be easier for him to mask.

This has helped me move on because now there is no hope and I see him no longer as a yearning. He isn't going to change. Ever. This is who he is. He doesn't love his GF. He doesn't love me. He doesn't love the new squeeze. That poor girl is about to go through what we all know is a downward spiral. She probably knows nothing of N's. She is pretty and young with long hair and prob innocent and maybe never been in love before.

He is about to tear her apart. She is about to go through what I went through. Up and down. Push and pull. He is going to reel her in and promise her the world and then run. And then come back. And then run. And then come back. He isn't going to let go of his GF either, she has something he wants, maybe money. He isn't going to bring this new squeeze out with friends and family. He is very firm about who plays what role which is why he insists on using fake e-mail addresses and names for his whores, it cements the role.

He will never change. Ever. I am not jealous of this girl. I wish I could warn her but I can't. I'm not jealous or envious. She is about to be torn apart and I am afraid and sad for her. He is going to destroy that poor girl.

Nov 1 - 7PM
cupcake (not verified)
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Letter

Barbara that is a GREAT idea. Can we do it? That is wonderful. Thanks again guys for saying all the right things. It still hurts but it has shown me that this is who he is forever. He will never change. Ever. I want to tell her but more to warn her. She is about to go into hell because of him and he has no right to use her up as he uses everyone. I hope he burns for the things he does to women.
Nov 1 - 9PM (Reply to #10)
Barbara (not verified)
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cupcake

actually since you already contacted her I wouldn't advise any of us doing it again. however - your predator should be on every exposure site on the net. Write it up like it could be any woman... but be sure to include the: does he.... you may even be helping the new prey! then one of us will send her the link. How about that? I know it is when I imitate how he liked to initiate cyber or phone sex for Psycho-Boy's next victim that got her. She kept saying HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT!?!?!?! Then she hung up and called him and said "HOW DOES BARBARA KNOW YOU DO/ SAY XYZ????" She told me he stopped dead... couldn't answer her. Started stuttering... BINGO! Toast! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QEIntRny3es ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 12 - 10PM (Reply to #11)
cupcake (not verified)
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Exposure Websites

I am ready to expose my N! I am going to seach this site - I know you listed them somewhere and I am going to expose him on every exposure site there is. Barbara do you know if we can legally suffer anything for doing that? Can they charge us for putting them on these sites etc or is it a safe thing to do? My N is VERY vengeful and would kill his own mother to keep himself from being exposed the only thing that worries me is the repercussion on myself?
Nov 12 - 10PM (Reply to #12)
Barbara (not verified)
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exposure sites

Just keep it as generic and anonymous as possible. No legal suits have EVER stuck. www.dontdatehimgirl.com www.datingpsychos.com www.peepsheet.com www.liarscheatsandbastards.com www.playerblock.com www.stoptheact.com READ some of the other exposures on the site. As long as you don't post things that could be used for identity theft like his SS number - he can bitch but he can't do jack. And ignore threats, etc. Write it as if you could be ANY of his women. Things like "does he do/say this" are particularly informative. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 12 - 11PM (Reply to #13)
cupcake (not verified)
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Thanks Barbara

Thanks for making it easy for me, will have a look at these sites. One last question - do you think it is safe to list where he works? The sites I looked at let you do this and you can give pretty specific info but I won't put anything up that makes him think it is me or cell numbers, SS numbers, photos etc - will keep it generic. Thanks for the advice!!
Nov 13 - 6AM (Reply to #14)
Barbara (not verified)
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cupcake

I wouldn't- if you interfere with his ability to make a living directly that could be trouble. Indirectly? his problem! You can say the industry he works in. I did with Psycho-Boy (Marketing for the Publishing or Entertainment Industry) Photo? yes if you have one! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 1 - 7PM (Reply to #9)
cynthia (not verified)
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Good idea

By now he probably has her sexual hormones going and she is under that deep spell and is very bonded to him, but at least she will give the letter some thought and check into it I am sure especially when he starts to mess up and runs for the door after he comes, that might be just a tad of a red flag do you think? In the letter Cupcake you should tell her all the things he said to you during your intimacy bet its the SAME thing he tells her, so at least she will know the guy is the same with all his victims and she is nothing special. She will then put it together that she was conned, the rest will be up to her to sort out. I am sure she will tell him too that she got a letter but I would like him to talk his way out of the fact he talks the same way to her as he did you Cupcake.
Oct 30 - 9AM
cynthia (not verified)
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Cupcake

I hope it helped you see more that he never loved his GF, and now he as another side whore he is going to destroy with all his false promises. Pretends he loves them, rapes them then leaves them. Here are there steps: IDOLIZE, CHARM, TELL YOU OF A LIFE TOGETHER, RAPE, and the raping goes on for months and months, then leave when the poor victim cant take it anymore. Off the Predator goes to stick his dick in someone else who falls madly in love with him. I thought of that too maybe my P girlfriend has money? but since mine is very very very wealthy I dont think that is the biggest factor I just think he has her trained where he wants after years and years of brainwashing and why give up all that work when he has her where he wants her why bother to switch girlfriends when the one he has serves the purpose, doesnt really matter who it is just as long as she plays the part and doesnt give him too much trouble, its just someone that lives with him and thats all she is to him.
Oct 30 - 6AM
quietude (not verified)
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him, he, his...

I would say, good...if seeing or finding out what he's currently doing..and if it was a 'zing' moment that helped propel you into a place where it makes your resolve even stronger, then this moment served it's purpose. Now it's time to stop focusing on him, and turn that around to someone who really deserves it, you. I personally can say I feel much 'lighter' not letting my ex take up so much space in my head wondering what he was doing and with whom.
Oct 30 - 6AM
Barbara (not verified)
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cupcake

http://www.geocities.com/andifekete/nicer.html and let me know if you want an anonymous email to write her. We'll all help you write a nice, anonymous email to her... and then you can tell her about this board. I know, when I finally spoke to my friend that Psycho-Boy had targeted - we were stunned either he used the EXACT SAME LINES on her or he told her the polar opposite or he used MY HISTORY as his own to make himself more interesting to her. We were both stunned... but I am no longer surprised. Yours is sick sick sick sick. Using women like free whores. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Oct 30 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
baddream
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Anonymous Letter

What a terrific idea, Barbara. We could all pitch in and compose an anonymous "Form Letter" from this forum that tells in detail all the things to look out for about N's, and warning the gf's to get out. The letter would go the the gf directly from this forum. Wow, that would just drive the N crazy; unfortunately the gf might not be at the point to be wise enough yet to heed our advise.. A great idea, even so.
Oct 30 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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let's do it.

and, you could post this letter and link on the exposure sites under the Ns picture(s) imagine all the people who'd finally realize it's NOT THEIR FAULT. YAY! We could have another version for the "sexless marriage" sufferers, too. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 13 - 6AM (Reply to #4)
4joys4
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I was warned by his exwife

I was warned by his exwife about him and I didnt listen. I didnt see anything about him that was similar to how she portrayed him, so I just thought she wanted me away from him. Fast forward 2 years and all the red flags were there.
Nov 15 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
agnesmurphy17
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warned

I think it pointless to warn a total stranger. If she is involved with this handsome stranger, she's going to believe that the ex- is a bitter, crazy, & jealous woman--as he will be describing. I think about this a lot because my N replaced me with a perfectly nice woman whose business card I happen to have because N & I met her socially at a mutual friend's house exactly one month before I left him. Mutual friend comforted my N after I so cruelly abandoned him & I can only assume that this woman was there to help mop up the tears. And the trap was set. He's told them I'm crazy. This poor woman is going to have to learn for herself. And by squealing on the guy . . . it will never phase him. These guys are unsinkable. They are predators. Squealing on him may actually be a fun thing for him to exert damage control & prevent his little bird from flying the coop.