He is a N, that's what they do! elicit supply...remember that, the motive is always SUPPLY in whatever form they can get it, it's just to keep you on the hook!
He doesn't care about how you're "holding up" he cares what he can get out of your response, IGNORE IT, DELETE IT, CUT OFF HIS CONTACT and don't worry about what he says, his actions speak for themselves, best wishes!
He is a N, that's what they do! elicit supply...remember that, the motive is always SUPPLY in whatever form they can get it, it's just to keep you on the hook!
He doesn't care about how you're "holding up" he cares what he can get out of your response, IGNORE IT, DELETE IT, CUT OFF HIS CONTACT and don't worry about what he says, his actions speak for themselves, best wishes!
They need attention from people and they need to feel that they can control others. If you text him you are giving him the attention that he wants by making him feel that he is irresistable. You are also allowing him to feel that he is in control of you (e.g. that he has succeeded in making you text him when he wanted you to) which will be giving him a high.
If you text him back it is because (maybe sub-consciously) you would like him to reply to you, but it is unlikely that he will. He'll have got what he needed from your text and won't feel the need to respond, even out of politeness. They are ruthless people and don't care if their actions hurt others. Narcissists don't spend time analysing what you might be thinking about what they have done. They don't reflect on their own actions at all because they believe themselves to be perfect.
They just don't think like we do and are not motivated in the same way as us, so texting him will always lead to you being hurt by him again, one way or another. Don't let him.
Ignore him. That way, hasn't got any attention or admiration out of you and you've shown him that he is not in control of you any more.
Because he wants you to tell him you are a mess without him. Even if you are, you would never tell him that right?
Don't answer the text. Ignoring it will make him squirm.
He's just making sure another one of his victims is still being victimized by him even in his absence!
When I broke NC with the ex-Psych prof, it was to tell him how HAPPY I was without him, and that a toddler had replaced him! Getting replaced&being told how HAPPY life is without him--now, as an empath, how does that feel?
I would've texted the Narc with happiness, unicorns&rainbows. So much sappy happiness he'd double over in a diabetic coma. A reversal of fortune, indeed.
Why would he want to think I am a mess without him? Do you think its because he wants to return?
Well, its too late for me not to answer it, becsue I sent him back this " Do you want the truth or do you want me to maske something up?" And I got no answer jback from him? What the hell is he doing?
This man has a disorder. Please continue to read. You are not understanding. This isn't about you.
"WHat the Hell is he doing"? He's behaving like the Narc that he is.
Hunter
I agree don't answer it and he will probably drop by too don't answer the door. IMO some of them this bothers them so make him feel hurt like you were feeling.
I agree don't answer it and he will probably drop by too don't answer the door. IMO some of them this bothers them so make him feel hurt like you were feeling.
He got what he needed, which is you responding, which means to him that he still has you as a supply in his mind. He doesn't care about you, he simply cares that you still care about him (which is what responding means to him).
I knew the exact moment when I would stop hearing back from the N I was seeing. He would reply with a one word answer. That was my signal that he got what he wanted and anything else after that would simply go into a void.
He's playing mind games read the section that says "narcspeak" that helped me out alot when he does drop by (because he will) everytime he says something just say " and that means the total opposite". He will get tired of you ripping off his mask and leave you alone.
Why? To see if you're still
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because...
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He wants to be in control.
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Funny...
Why would he want to think I
Ilianna57
he is just messing with your head.
I agree don't answer it and
I agree don't answer it and
I wish I never answered
He got what he needed, which
He's playing mind games read
and that was his goal