A new N?!

Hey all

I think you will all be proud of me....

I kind of met this man on a dating site recently - he messaged me and seemed nice - solvent, children but not at home, relocating to my area, nice looking. I thought it wouldn't hurt to just get to know him very slowly and although I was working through getting over my N, I thought it might help me to get over him if you get what I mean.

Anyway, this guy asked for my mobile number so he could text me and then proceeded to phone me (A LOT). And I even had to fake being ill in bed to avoid his calls. He had quite an aggressive, dry manner. Told me it was his humour level, but red flags were there already.

Anyway, after a few days, I started to text him again to see if it was just nerves and he was acting like that just to 'impress' me! No.....he phoned me again last night - I had just woken up about 9PM after putting my child to bed - and was quite miserable, rude and objectionable on the phone. He kept mentioning how he was 'godlike' and dropping in some subtle and not so subtle put-downs about my training (drama student).

So......I actually realised he is a def N - and I told him to leave me alone. Said we are not compatible, I don't understand his 'humour' level and he is not impressing me at all - I actually found his 'phone call abusive.

I guess this is stage 1 of me moving on - learning to recognise the signs of an N and running a mile. This is largely due to the lessons I learnt from here.

Oh and I am 3 days NC with ex N too!

Sooo proud of myself!

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