The nephew's wedding

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#1 Jul 28 - 12PM
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The nephew's wedding

I find that while I'm getting more perspective on the narc himself (most days) I am getting more and more upset as the nephew's wedding day approaches. The nephew and his soon bride are the only two of the next generation that I had in my life. I've been looking forward to going to their wedding for over a year. When we were together I told the narc this more than once and he replied that dont worry re it we're going. However, in the process of separating I asked the narc what about the wedding expecting at least an empathic statement (didn't know re narcness then) He replied that if he's alone he'll go and if he's with someone he'll take her. Of course i was hurt.
I'd like suggestions about how to get through the day. I can't go to the wedding and won't ask for an individual invitation because all would think I was doing it just to see the narc.
On our July 4 anniversary I coped by going to Canada with a friend and enjoying myself (so no fireworks). But what to do when all I can feel is such sadness re missing this wedding of these two young people. I also feel ripped off about not participating in a life event of the younger generation who are important to me.
Thanks!

Aug 12 - 6PM
omgalso
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I took your advice, Lookforward

Aug 14 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
Lookforward
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:) Handled with great dignity

Aug 4 - 7AM
Lookforward
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Letting go of the people who

Jul 29 - 1PM
Goldie
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The particulars of this situation

Jul 30 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
omgalso
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Clarification

Jul 30 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
Goldie
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Thank you