need help!

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#1 Sep 30 - 5AM
dj1
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need help!

I'm frightened, scared, confused...ended a relationship with a N I work with when I found out he was cheating in perverse ways. Texted him when I left his house that I wanted no contact from him anymore. My story is so typical of those on this forum...mine was so caught up in voyeurism, cheating, porn, etc, but he could never admit fully to it.
Been almost 2 weeks NC...I know he is probably shocked I haven't contacted him because I would always come running to 'fix' the problem. When I was walking into work on Thursday, I crossed his path outside. He dripped venom and sarcasm, trying to engage me, saying GOOD MORNING (but VERY venomous and sarcastically) HOW ARE YOU?? and then when I kept walking and ignoring, he seemed even madder and more venomous, and yelled WELL THEN YOU JUST HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY THEN!!! and I could tell he was extremely pissed off. It scared and embarrased me, wondering who else heard this...I was too afraid to turn around and wanted to ignore.
Should I have?? I'm thinking I need to address this with HR to get him to stop, because I'm sure he'll do it again. He's normally a quiet and silent treatment type. Don't want to go through it at work, but he texted me when I left 2 weeks ago that if I said anything at work about what had happened that I would get it "ten times over". Should I tell him if he doesn't stop that I will get work involved? I know he's afraid people at work will find out he engages in perverted acts and more about our time together (8 months) and it doesn't have to be discussed, but I just want this to stop so I can concentrate on my healing...please help!!! He's not a kid, in his late 40s...don't know what to do and stressing terribly, sick to my stomach and afraid it will happen again....!!

Sep 30 - 2PM
Hunter
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You did great.. You went

Sep 30 - 1PM
Deidre99
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I wouldn't reveal his private

Sep 30 - 11AM
Im_always_fine
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Continue to handle yourself

Sep 30 - 10AM
shock and awe.some
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Do NOT feel bad

Sep 30 - 7AM
talktothehand
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Fix the problem

Sep 30 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
dj1
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OMG I broke NC......

Oct 1 - 10AM (Reply to #28)
Goldie
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This is Narc 101 PITY PARTY, How do you suppose they suck us in?

Oct 1 - 8AM (Reply to #21)
brinamarie
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Ive been NC for 10 months. My

Oct 1 - 11AM (Reply to #22)
dj1
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got duped, yes, but does this mean no redemption??

Oct 1 - 11AM (Reply to #23)
brinamarie
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No darlin, just learn from

Oct 1 - 11AM (Reply to #24)
dj1
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OMG

Oct 1 - 1PM (Reply to #25)
brinamarie
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I mean i dont know tour

Oct 1 - 1PM (Reply to #27)
dj1
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wow brina..

Oct 1 - 1PM (Reply to #26)
dj1
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got the picture...thanks!

Sep 30 - 5PM (Reply to #18)
Hunter
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Good Lord...This assclown

Oct 1 - 8AM (Reply to #20)
IncognitoBurrito
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That

Oct 1 - 12AM (Reply to #19)
Walkingonsunshine
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Oh yes he did! That nasty

Sep 30 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
tryingtorecover
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"Now I'm wondering...did I

Sep 30 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
dj1
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i'm asking for...

Sep 30 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
dj1
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well i did it...

Oct 1 - 7AM (Reply to #17)
shock and awe.some
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It is so hard in the beginning

Oct 1 - 4AM (Reply to #16)
tryingtorecover
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Nc nc nc nc

Oct 1 - 4AM (Reply to #15)
tryingtorecover
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Nc nc nc nc

Oct 1 - 12AM (Reply to #12)
Walkingonsunshine
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Ahh the baby voice... Red

Oct 1 - 4AM (Reply to #14)
tryingtorecover
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Walkingon sunshine

Oct 1 - 4AM (Reply to #13)
tryingtorecover
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Walkingon sunshine

Sep 30 - 10PM (Reply to #6)
evergreen
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Leech

Oct 1 - 8AM (Reply to #7)
dj1
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you were so right, everyone!!

Oct 1 - 9AM (Reply to #11)
Juliette
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dj, don't beat yourself up . . .

Oct 1 - 8AM (Reply to #8)
shock and awe.some
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Hey dji...don't beat yourself up