Need Advice

Hi all,

So sorry for all of your pain. Could use some advice. I did buy Lisa's book and it is great but.... not sure about my situation. So here goes:Sorry this is long!

I have been in a realtionship with what I thought was a wonderful man, attentive, caring, giving, funny the works. But from the begining if we had a fight or disagreement he would hang up and not talk for days. Until I called joked, apologized and got us back on track. Now I know I am not perfect, so try to take this in stride. We had so many good days, no fights, got along on just about every moral, ethical, financial issue. Disagreements only a few in years. We talked all the time etc. Now fast forward to this year find a social media site we both use to make fun of etc, find an account of his.

Now I know we all need our me time, privacy, friends outside of us but this has been more of a long distance relationship so there was hurt and jealously involved. We tried to work past, I started one myself and tried to involve him, have fun and not be jealous etc. Think he was shocked and glad we ended up having fun etc but still strained. When some hurts came up tried to talk to him, again hangs up this time for weeks, around holidays, we get back together .Now again new disagreement ( no real fights in my mind) those who have been in long relationships know what I mean these were petty small things . Again the hang up now has been 3 weeks. This time I reacted different. He was going to work out at gym told me to call in an hour. Now i knew he was upset, and had a funny sinking feeling but tried to call. Left one sweet text, one thank you email one line ( for help with a project ) and tried to call for two days then told him off. Basically said I know you broke up with me and we are over, thought we could have been decent to each other etc end as friends . He has left me up on his social website. The usual pattern is he will stay off for days, then get back on flirt, add women etc and I use to call and say do you have time for me as a friend etc. or if you are going to talk to them and not me then we are over and he would pick up. I think he would do this to get me to call. We would joke he would say he was stressed or angry and didn't want to end it or say bad things. We would be fine etc.

Now this time he got back on tried adding other women, flirting, and I didn't call, text , email nothing. I finally blocked him and unblocked next day just so we weren't seeing each other on there. I unblocked next day but didn't watch him or anything noticed he came back on my site so that night blocked again and have left it that way for a week. I still have not sent any texts, emails, notes etc but did cave at 2 and 3 week mark trying to call again to see if we could just end it nicely and nothing. But he still has me up on his site and not been back on. To be fair he has a lot of stress from Narcassitic or dysfunctional family.

He always tried to be kind and opposite of them, intelligent well read etc. But his family fights nver apologies and expects him to do for them next day. He does take care of a few of them as well with no help. I think he doesn't like the rejection this time or lack of me doing the usual crawling. etc Any thoughts. I do miss his laughter, jokes, caring etc.