Narcspeak

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#1 Oct 18 - 3PM
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Narcspeak

Some background--
Daughter's last soccer game was "silent" meaning parents could clap, but not yell, cheer, etc. The intent was to let the girls play & have fun.
Well, guess who had an issue with this. xNH sent this email to the coach & local news--as well as me.
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Good talking with you. After reading this you might think that it is a put-on, but that is not the case. They have already stated that parents will be removed from the field should they cheer for their children. It is important to know that this "concept" is applying to the 4-8 year old leagues that play to the west of the larger fields. There is also, on this convoluted "day", no input allowed by coaches either.
If this is not a direct violation of free speech, I do not know what is. Furthermore, it is a great example of direct involvement by a public domain to manage the relationship that I as a parent have with my 7 year old daughter. What comes next, no cheering at every game as it suggests? Will we see this then at the high school level one day?... the college level the next? This is an absolutely viable and concerning story. If we can be discussing the qualifications of a trans-gender woman being able to play on the LPGA tour, then this is surely a story for the public to be aware of.
This is a relevant angle that would appeal to most every parent in attendance, and those whose children play in other leagues also. We all understand that there will always be unruly people; whether it be at a soccer game, a Nascar race, or a football game, but that is all manageable. Those kind of people will be the exception at every arena, stadium & field that our kids may play at or attend as spectators. Why should we be made examples of because of them? We are giving our rights away daily in the name of what someone else fells is best for us. When that invasive approach involves our children, it is time to address it.
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I responded to the coach & the Soccer League that I did not share that same viewpoint.

Aside from the angry voice mail, I received this email, that he cc'd his mom....

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For you to undermine this is really unbelievable. Do you not stand for anything but making things difficult/uncomfortable for me? Your dad spends long hours per week at his computer champion such oppositions as I did here to your adulation. Your hypocrisy is so quite obvious.
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Ladies??? Can't wait for your comments...

Dec 22 - 1PM
Deidre99
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Well...at least he is an

Well...at least he is an equal opportunity narc. LOL! Seriously...he goes off on strangers like this? As tempting as it would be to write back...''GOSH, I'M GLAD WE'RE DIVORCED.'' I'd refrain and say nothing. If he becomes harassing, that's another story. But, his email back to you...ugh. Made me cringe. The recent narc in my life would send nastemails (nasty emails lol) from time to time...and his wording is such a reminder. Hang in there. You are a good mom, and you'll weather this storm with God.
Dec 26 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
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Thanks Dee

He has his harassing moments... but at least they're in email & documented. "Nastemails"...I love it. Have a beutiful Holiday & a wonderful New Year!
Oct 31 - 6PM
Alive
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Hi M

how is everything?
Nov 4 - 1PM (Reply to #3)
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at the moment....quiet

Quiet usually means he is finding some supply somwhere... then something will happen & he'll get all mad & start e-mailing me on how I'm an unfit mom or whatever. He created a scene at daughter's school with the counselor last week. He called my mom, to tell her to that I needed to call him. My mom told him to email me. (She knows he's NPd) I asked my daughter what happened, the went to the school the next day. Found out the issue was eH getting upset because the couselor "embarassed" our daughter. All the counselor did was ask my d if she told her dad about what happened (a little roughhousing, not a big deal) She started crying because she hadn't told him. So, now her school even knows which parent is the sane one. N's do dig their own grave.
Oct 18 - 4PM
hopefuljms
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M

This guy is a douchebag! And emails like this prove it without a doubt. I have had 2 long term relationships 2 different types of N's and they both would have written something as assinine as this!