The Narc's Crisis Is Not Yours
The Narc's Crisis Is Not Yours
I found this posted on another forum, and thought I'd share it here. I think it might be a good reminder for anyone tempted to rescue the N in their life. It's by Paul Davis, a life coach. The link is at:
http://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/t16754
Your Crisis--Not My Concern
Your crisis is not my concern
What is for you burning urgent
Is not necessarily for me
All that intriguing or important
If you grossly mismanage
Misappropriate and mishandle
Incompetently administrate
Deal dishonestly and deviate
Vacillate and frivolously fluctuate
Sway and trip up pathetically
Decline and change dramatically
Welcoming perpetual instability
When it arrives should I cry?
When all hell is breaking loose
Should I drop all I am doing
Mismanage my own precious life
To babysit and attend to you?
If I do, how well will that serve
What I'm endeavoring to do
It's either focusing on me
Or rescuing and fixing you.
Knowing this what than shall I do?
I know well what you want me to
However should I in the process
Allow this distraction to make me
Falter, flail, fail, and come unglued?
The attraction of a fatal distraction
Is nothing more than showing mercy
Showing myself helpful as a friend
Undoubtedly we all do need them
I am certainly no different myself
Everybody needs somebody else
Yet there is an art to balancing
Requests, demands, and wishes
Pleas for help in a time of crisis
Must sometimes wait patiently
For the ideal, appropriate time
Before applying undo pressure
Disheartening one as the lesser
For not immediately dropping all
To lend a helping hand to you
Continually troubled in all you do
Forever sinking in quicksand too
Because of countless wrong decisions
Arrogance and unwillingness to listen
Hence your crisis is to me no surprise
Get yourself together and open your eyes
Listen to instruction and begin to realize
Your lack of character causes your crises
Like a mad dog which bites giving rabies
You have reaped what you've sown
In your character you have not grown
Now in despair you moan and groan
Burden your faithful friends again
When will this nonsense ever end?
Know from now on that I've got a life
A life which I shall marvelously live
Yes, at times I will be a friend and give
However I shall not be a dirty doormat
Nor your savior on whom you can lean
It is time you stand on your own feet
Order your life, affairs, and be complete
Stop heavily dumping on everybody else
Expecting the world to revolve around you
Cater to your ever beck and cowardly call
Get a grip, sort yourself out, and stand tall
For this nonsense will no longer be tolerated
Your crisis is your personal turning point
Therefore turnaround, change your ways
Listen to what circumstances are saying
To you the hard and dull of hearing today
Your turbulent times are talking to you
To get your attention, tell you what to do
Plan, prepare, and minimize your pain
Conquer your complications and gain
Inner strength, direction, and dominion
What does not matter is your opinion
Your actions speak far louder than words
Alter, reform, and revolutionize your lifestyle
Because no longer will your crisis me beguile
I shall be about my business from now on
As for you, it's time to grow up and get on.
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AMEN SISTER!!!!!
"The attraction of a fatal
Every day was a crisis!
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It really hit home for me,
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.