Narcs Aren't Normal

I think we are all agreed. Narcs aren't normal. I've had the minimalist of LC due to work and for most of this year, it's been fine. Around the summer, Narc Ass has sent me hoovers disguised as work related. It got so that I eventually filtered his emails but did not set them to trash as he occasionally needs info regarding the work we do. This filter helped considerably but if I email search with the right letters a word with no connection to him, occasionally his emails pop up. Thankfully, Gmail gives enough opening info that I can tell without opening his email what it is about. Nothing pertinent so no problem. It irks me that when I'm not even thinking about him, his filtered email can show up due to an email search but I've been NC all the way.

Until today. I was searching for one of my bosses' emails and as I was in a hurry to get information for someone on the phone, pulled his most recent email in view. He misspelled my name for starters and it was an invite to self-promote him.

I blew a gasket. Has my silence stood for nothing? My phone number is changed so there's issues on that front. But the incredulity of it all left me with little recourse. I sent a strict DO NOT CONTACT ME and let him and my bosses know that I have now filtered all his emails to be sent to trash. Automatic deletion. If he needs something, he'll have to go directly to them as this is really ridiculous.

For the Newbies or anyone else, Narcs refuse to back down. It's been said all over this site and I will reiterate. A normal person would. A normal person who is pushy, obtuse or unaware will still fold. They do not need short of a court order. Narcs DO NOT CARE. As I was changing the filter to now send to Trash and delete forever, his response came up. I did not open but I saw the opening sentence and it was snarky, dismissive and rude. End of.

I'm not spinning. I actually feel better as now I never have to worry about his emails popping up while searching. They are and will be deleted upon delivery. Sigh of relief.

I had a wonderful Halloween and forgot all about him. My friend whose been by my side through all this and reads occasionally on here too in order to understand the disorder said for me not to feel too badly about breaking NC. There is no reasoning with a Narc. They twist and turn everything against us. I have no idea what the shit email continued to say and will never know. Fine by me. I got a whiff to know it did not contain any shame, remorse or capitulation. Narcs don't do these. I get it. I really do.

LC had pretty much been NC for most of this year but just having the slightest crack gave him in his mind the license to send me BS (read or not). I've never experienced this stubborn refusal to leave me well enough alone by anyone else including two other Narcs. This one is the worst.

I haven't been in any doubt about his being a Narc. I thought my NC would end his need or hope for supply. They do not care. They do not listen. You can't afford an inch.

I feel better and I'm sorta glad his BS forced my final hand by ending any form of communication getting through. It's been a slight annoyance but having the privilege to search my email without fear of pulling his up makes it all worthwhile. Hoovers in any form are not a compliment. I respected my boundaries and can breathe a sigh of relief.

There is no reasoning with a Narc. They do not have the capacity or aptitude for it. Forget it. End the entitlement by filtering emails to trash and never look back. I'm sorry it had to come to this as we do work in the same field but I'm not sorry for having enough and ending it for good. (-:

Here's to a Narc Free inbox going to the trash where all Narc crap belongs. I hope others follow my lead, sooner rather than later. It saves you a world of aggravation!