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#1 May 1 - 2PM
lostlove458
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Narcless

It's been 8 months since I have been narcless and today I woke up with him on myind. There are days that I am good and tell myself it wasn't me it was him. Also, why am I still talking about my exn everyone keeps saying how he has moved on and how I need to do the same. Am I the only one that doesn't believe he has really changed. What if I'm just i'n denial? It's strange but why is ow now the one that changed him? They go out on the town to clubs and I'm hearing about how they are doing things together and how they have been together for awhile. I don't understand! Please help me understand I'f this 38 year old once selfish man and user has changed? What is a narc again and why do I feel I'm missing him and want what they have now am I insane and need validation am I obssessed with his fb status even if I blocked him but why am I narcless ??

May 1 - 4PM
Hunter
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LostLove

:(, Look, if he was normal he wouldn't treat you like he did? Narc or not he's with another, She will get hers. I promise you. Really, think about your time with this guy. For me I remember the brief moments that were amazing, but even then it was all about him. He never cared to ask about me. You deserve better. If you're really having a hard time (Im going to get beat about this) Call him. I guarantee you will get scrambled eggs, with that you will see crazy at its finest. It wont feel good but you will a NARC at his finest. Hunter
May 1 - 2PM
Redhead1
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Wait until the new wears off

Wait until the new wears off of the new supply. Its funny how people tell you to move on, but offer no advice on how to move on. He hasnt changed. Just a matter of time, or maybe she is just a doormat or wants his money. i stayed with mine for 20 years before I had had enough. My reasons were two children and I wanted them to have a home and a family. He knew that was important to me and he knew I would put up with a lot to keep my illusion going. I was just in denial. My ex narc may find another woman as niave as I was. He may have a long term relationship. BUT, I am to the point now where I am glad its not me thats with him. I know how miserable I was with him. He treated me horrible. Like someone said earlier, its better to be lonely than to be lonely with a narc:) In reality, I am not that lonely. I have moments of lonliness, but I have always found constructive ways to battle my lonliness and boredom. My narc hasnt changed a bit after almost a year. I hear it from my kids. THey don't have come to Jesus moments. In thier eyes, they did nothing wrong.