Narc Jealousy
Narc Jealousy
I've spent some time reading on this site about the agony of finding out your N is cheating. Hell not only cheating, but alley-catting Tiger Woods style in some cases. And seen threads recently on the pain of being triangulated with N and new supply and being the odd one out. But I have been wondering lately about the N jealousy he has towards men who pay attention to us. If he does not have feelings per se, why does he get jealous when he thinks we have some special romantic interest (or even just attraction) other than him? I know he feels envy and tries to take the goodness from others (including us) for himself and destroy us - but why be (or at least act) jealous if we are just objects and he has no feelings for us?
Is it like the two year old when he imagines someone wants to take his toy? Even one he's already discarded as it was no longer new and shiny? It's still HIS toy? Is this the line of thinking here?
Curious to hear if others N showed jealousy towards others in your lives, even when totally random and not warranted. I didn't mention ANY other men in my life after a while as he got so jealous (but would not admit it as that would seem like he cared). He got pissy and cutting to me (and insulting add belittling any man I would discuss) and I knew after time, not to bring anyone else up. If we had an attractive waiter, or at a party an attractive guest spoke with me, he would make sure to make fun of him (frequently calling then "gay" as if that was an insult)
Your thoughts, ladies? (and the gents too - don't mean to be exclusive here!)
Thanks!
jealous...
Narc Jealousy is just plain jea"lousy"
yes
No jealousy here
wallaby
Good one, Barbara! Lol!
LOL
wallaby
Enoughalready
The narc jealousy
narc jealousy - an act