THE NARC HAS FALLEN TO A NEW ALL TIME LOW...

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#1 Dec 17 - 11PM

Anonymous (not verified)

THE NARC HAS FALLEN TO A NEW ALL TIME LOW...

We talked about a stolen dustpan, those of you who know me...

Well, I get up to make a cup of tea and note my farberware small pot is...GONE!

WTF!

I'm scared to check to see if my tampons are still in the closet....

What an Asshat!

#2 Dec 18 - 12PM

mystwoman

These narcs are pathetic,

These narcs are pathetic, aren't they? I thought xnh was the bottom on the barrel in the "petty childish" department. Apparently yours is winning awards as well. lol. Xnh got mad at me right after the divorce when he'd come out to my property to get a shed that I'd generously let him take (didn't legally have to). I was deliberately gone when he arrived so that I didn't have to deal with him. He waited on my property until I came home anyway, so he could yell at me because I'd changed all of my locks. Apparently xnh was furious because he couldn't just walk into my house, hang out, use my toilet, and steal my mixer. He wanted it for his daughter. So he said. Personally, I think why he wanted it was because his mommy had given it to me, and he seemed to think it was some kind of priceless family heirloom. By this time, I'd already received no less than four nasty emails from him whining about my mixer. As xnh was getting into his truck and slamming the door to leave, he says, "You must think I'm just a real A$$hole!!!" Well yes, that's EXACTLY what I think. Not only that but he is a heinous mixer-napper wanna be. I'm really glad that I changed my locks because xnh would have been tormenting my mixer as we speak. Just think of the abuse he could be inflicting on the poor thing!! rofl. I certainly hope your tampons survived better than your teapot. What a jerk!

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#3 Dec 19 - 3AM (Reply to #21)

michele115 (not verified)

MYST...if I didn't know better...and you won't believe this!!!

TONIGHT...had a conversation with a girlfriend ALSO going through a divorce... While complaining about my stolen pot - AS IN COOKWARE!... She told me last night she discovered her narc stole...guess... YES! Her MIXER!!! WTF!!! And he never cooked either but knew she used it... There has to be an undergound Narc manual somewhere...this is too bizarre. Happy to report however, my tampons are still in the closet... Oh boy...closet came up... I'm going to bed. This is tooo much. Hugs.

#4 Dec 18 - 8PM (Reply to #20)

onwithmylife

Mystwoman

I can top yours LOL, when my narc left my place, I asked him to because of all the abuse he heaped on him, we got in to a big fight because he wanted his mothers FRIDGE, he had given me but said he had "loaned" it to me, since when do you loan someone an appliance like that, I guess the poor ole fridge had memories of his dear old mother, me he could trash but not dear old mom. He was real hate filled at the time and later on Idiscovered he had stolen an old fossil of mine as well as some small stuffed animals of my sons. WTF is right! what a sick sick man......................one of his ex wives told me he stole a grandfather clock that was hers, now i know she was not making it up as I thought at the time..........this friend of mine who has a masters in psychology says it has to do with rememberance of their mommies.

#5 Dec 18 - 8PM (Reply to #19)

Jean

mixer napper wanna-be

ROFLOL. That is freakin' hilarious . . .

#6 Dec 18 - 12PM (Reply to #17)

michele115 (not verified)

Myst...

What a jerk!

#7 Dec 18 - 3PM (Reply to #18)

Hunter

They are all JERKS!! Jerk,

They are all JERKS!! Jerk, is being kind.

#8 Dec 18 - 12PM

Goldie

Their lowdown deception knows no bounds

Yesterday I get a letter from the Department of Revenue. Apparently over a year ago now my refund check was never cashed and they are wondering why???? Why you ask well, I'm sure you all know why. This check went missing 7 days after the Narc moved in and I had looked into it at the time and actually forgotten all about it until now. Had recovery on my mind and forgot about the check. This slimey piece of shit stole my check and either found out it was a federal offense with a potential jail sentence of 10 years OR the bastard simply could not cash it without my concent. Most tellers or supermarkets are pretty leary about cashing a government check without you there. The only possibility would be to deposit the check which I did once for my brother, but who the hell is stupid enough to deposit a stolen government check into their own bank account??? Probably no one, so the Narc simply desposed of my check. Just keeps getting better and better, that will bring his tally of stolen and destroyed shit of mine up to over 14,000.00 now and this was only in a 7 month period. Oh and of course he was trying to refinance my house behind my back as well, too bad my credit was so bad that he was unable to pull that one off. I got a call from a bank asking about my refinancing package?? This shit is no joke. Sometimes I believe we don't even realize the extend of their deception until months possibly years later. Then of course there was the crack ho he was banging while we were together, did not know about that until a few months ago. I hope to God there is nothing else. At least he did not get away with the government check thing. I should be receiving the duplicate check soon. Thank God he is jail because if I was finding all of this out now and he wasn't I would be even more upset. This joker is paying for his crimes. He appears to like jail, he can be the center of attention in there and there is plenty of twisted supply. Man oh man am I glad this moron is out of my life and I have this site, because seriously, who would believe all of this had they not gone through it themselves?? I think some of them steal just to steal, just like they lie just to lie. A pot??? Please, that is just downright pathetic. God bless, Goldie

#9 Dec 18 - 1PM (Reply to #9)

agnesmurphy17

What's Your's Is Their's

And what's their's is their's. I read that psychopaths actually enjoy an object better if it is an ill gotten gain. Let's see. Mine said HIS FATHER broke my decorative plate. I asked for the shards & compensation (because he required me to pay for his pullies which were ruined in the laundry. After 2x, I told him -- well put this in the wash at your own risk, if it's ruined, I will not buy another. He would then take the object to the dry cleaner.) I never got shards or compensation. but the woman who replaced me -- she contacted me. I asked about the plate--it's on the wall. When she finally got in to get her stuff back, she took a picture of it & she's in the photo as well because there's a mirror under the plate. (A lot of her stuff was broken or just plain missing.) When he was closing the apartment on the woman who preceded me, apparently they had a knock down drag out about a toilet brush! And, of course, he got the toilet brush. As if he couldn't afford to get a new brush at the drug store! They are like little kids in the sandbox. MINE! Even though they were not playing with the damn thing when another child picked it up.

#10 Dec 18 - 8PM (Reply to #15)

onwithmylife

for Agnes Murphy

I remember reading in a book that very thing, what is yours is theirs, kinda like the Narc taking over my place, my stuff getting dumped and his stuff going into my place, but your toilet brush has to top his mothers Fridge, i posted a few above this one, I just got bushwacked!!!! Oh what freaks of nature these men are...............

#11 Dec 18 - 6PM (Reply to #10)

Susan32

Ill-gotten gain...

And with some Ns/Ps, it doesn't end with death either. When Leo Tolstoy died, he left behind a letter for his wife Sofia to read after his passing. He speaks of his own sexual debauchery, praises her as an angel... but throughout he blames HER for his actions. He calls her "despotic, irritable, uncontrollable"--and this is a letter from a dead man. NO sense of her gratitude in how she helped him with his writing. NO acknowledgment of her bearing his 13 kids, whom she mainly raised on her own. The ex-Psych professor would wax rhapsodic about Leo's final letter to his wife... and it's incredibly cruel. If that's his concept of a dream marriage, it's a NIGHTMARE. 4 years of Spalding Gray's death, his widow Kathleen Russo as well as his two young sons have found out that Gray deemed himself bisexual and was in porn movies. It sounds like sometimes they get the last word, even after they've died.

#12 Dec 18 - 8PM (Reply to #11)

Jean

have you seen The Last Station

A film about Tolstoy's last few weeks. The Mrs does not come off looking too good in this film, either. In fact, the whole subtext of the film is really about how is he is torturing her by withholding funds but you get the impression that she was so hard to handle that his actions sort of make sense. He comes off looking like the good guy.

#13 Dec 18 - 9PM (Reply to #12)

Susan32

Leo Tolstoy as the put-upon, henpecked husband.. gimme a break..

Alexandra Popoff's recent biography of Sofia Tolstoy, as well as Sofia's OWN diaries, show that it was Leo who was the abuser. It began with the emotionally wounding exchange of diaries. Leo's chronicles of sexual exploits (which included confessions of homosexual love) REALLY shocked her. Then the rape on the wedding night. His murderous rages after the birth of her first child;seeing her suffer, he wanted to wipe her off the face of the Earth. His frequent, unexplained abandonments. Taking Sofia's sister Tanya to a ball instead of Sofia just to make Sofia jealous. Flaunting an ex-girlfriend (a serf) and their son just to make Sofia jealous. He would force her to have sex... and bragged to fellow writer Ivan Turgenev about how she was "at the mercy of his appetites." It disgusted Turgenev so much he cut ties with him. Then Leo suddenly wanted to be celibate within marriage, and purposefully withheld sex from Sofia when she wanted it (what lady here has NOT experienced that?) Sofia had a nightmare about being a doll... Leo turned it into a joke. In her diaries, she refers to herself as a machine and a piece of furniture. What poster here has NOT felt that way with an N/P? Music was forbidden in the Tolstoy household, tho Sofia found fulfillment in it. Leo bitterly mocked her and criticized her for liking music. The ex-Psych professor said that if I married him, I wouldn't be allowed to have music. He hated concerts. Giving up music completely. Couldn't do THAT. "He comes off looking like the good guy"-That's what Ns/Ps DO. Sofia isn't just a woman from a bygone century;she is US. "She was so hard to handle"-She became bitter, "uncontrollable" (the Ns/Ps nightmare, someone they can't control), "despotic"....isn't that what results from narcissistic abuse???? Leo Tolstoy was so idolized by the Soviet regime that Sofia's diaries were effectively under lock and key. Imagine if these forums were closed and stories were censored because the government deemed them dangerous, if these men in our lives were important. A century ago, Leo Tolstoy passed away. Yet Russia is NOT celebrating him officially (they did with Alexander Pushkin) Talk about going NC on a Narc! Russia has gone NC on him. Wow.

#14 Dec 18 - 10PM (Reply to #13)

Jean

interesting

I wonder who made the movie, because I definitely got the feeling the director felt it was an "ode to Tolstoy" and also the point of it was how "complex" love was. I hate it when people re-write history, especially via hollywood films when they don't have to. A film that showed him as he actually was would have been equally dramatic and true. It's also sort of weird that this was a recent film since this information about Leo is clearly known. Maybe the screenwriters were influenced by the ex-Psych professor I hear about on this board and his obsession with Tolstoy. It's also really interesting that he went into a "spiritual" phase toward the end of his life. I wonder what THAT was about? Loss of Narcissistic supply??

#15 Dec 19 - 1AM (Reply to #14)

Susan32

Tolstoy has LOTS of followers...

Go to any site that espouses Christian pacifism, communal life, vegetarianism. LOTS of biographies are favorable towards Tolstoy, and the ex-P has nothing to do with it. You'd be amazed by how many literary ladies worship the narcissistic Prince Andrei (who deserts his pregnant wife, and later, his fiancee)... they're like teenaged girls who worship Edward Cullen, except they have slightly better taste, so to speak. (Edward is a vegetarian, like Leo Tolstoy was in his last days) "Last Station" is based on a historical fiction novel about Tolstoy's last days. "Loss of narcissistic supply?"-Tolstoy's followers lived on his estate. He basically had a commune. He had literary fans, people who worshipped him as a guru... so it was NS. Still, Leo Tolstoy frequently had depression, was alcoholic, a hypochondriac... he had all the behaviors Sam Vaknin associates with deficient NS. By the time Leo was dying, 12 of his 13 children wouldn't have anything to do with him. Normally, people WANT to be with their parents in their last days... and Tolstoy's children, for the most part, wanted NOTHING to do with him. "Maybe the screenwriters were influenced by the ex-P"- Luckily, he's not THAT influential. You've never heard of him. If he had original ideas&were as extensively published as Tolstoy, he'd be famous. He's not. There are LOTS of Tolstoy experts, many well-known. He is not one of them. He was more of the hermetic&obscure Narc than the charismatic, famous, on Facebook, Myspace&Twitter type. Leo Tolstoy's "spiritual" phase got him more NS. His death was a media circus.

#16 Dec 18 - 12PM (Reply to #7)

michele115 (not verified)

Goldie

What a winner hey? And I was cracking up later last night cause I started thinking... What if someone overheard me... He Stole My Pot!!! They'd think I was smoking Mary J.. LMAO

#17 Dec 19 - 3AM (Reply to #8)

michele115 (not verified)

And just as I predicted....

Talking to my cousin today going on and on about the pot...she listened intently and about five minutes later "Got It" The whole time she was thinking I was talking about Mary J... AND SHE KNOWS I Don't Smoke!!! Aye..Yay...Yay... SMH... I give him credit for cleverness...He had to know I'd be ranting "He stole my Pot! He stole my Pot!" with me assuming they'd know I meant a cookware item as opposed to drugs...he had to know...and probably envisioned everyone thinking I meant drugs. It was clever. I wish there was something I could steal of his that was innocent that went by the name crack! Grrrrr

#18 Dec 18 - 4AM

Scotchy71

Michelle

Wow, that made me laugh too, is nothing sacred???? That's almost as bad as the post I read about an exN breaking in and stealing toilet paper - asshat, I love that!!!!! It makes as much sense as they do huh? What a loser....mine who quite happily stood back when in restaurants and coffee shops, to let me pay - after I'd spent over $2000 to visit him, turned around and told me that I was only happy when HE was spending money on me.....I guess that's why I was so miserable...must have missed those times..... :) x

#19 Dec 17 - 11PM

Deidre99

I know I should not be

I know I should not be laughing, but this post cracked me up. ''asshat'' hahaha Good grief, this is bizarre. So...he can't afford a dustpan and pot? He has to take yours? Here's something I don't get. Aren't these men at all embarassed that they don't act like MEN? They act like little boys...don't they think they look ridiculous doing some of this crap? Ugh. Ok...going to bed. I said goodnight earlier...lol Really going this time. Take care and I hope your weekend gets better. {hugs}

#20 Dec 18 - 12PM (Reply to #2)

michele115 (not verified)

Deidre99

YES YOU SHOULD BE LAUGHING! We need some laughing... Yes, I was pissed, but the BIIIIIG Picture... It clearly demonstrates how SICK they are. Which isn't funny... But the question begs to be answered.... WTH do we really MISS?... Now we SEE.... The Mirror is shattered... We really controled all of it... AND it's within our control to move on... Thank GOD I'm in a better place...but it was hard at first. We all have to stay strong - process but keep ourselves off the loop for too long. After a certain point...the focus needs to be on us. That isn't directed towards you specifically but for all of us. Hugs...

#21 Dec 19 - 12AM (Reply to #3)

Deidre99

No, you are right. I see

No, you are right. I see that totally. A dustpan? haha It's just comical. I think it's about control. He took those things to show you...ha...I can take what I want. I have a hard time calling this a disorder still. I don't know why. I think it's because I don't know when being an asshole turned into something else...and a disorder says to me...that there is an 'excuse' for the behavior. Maybe that's why I struggle with labeling it a disorder. You should buy him ten dustpans for Christmas...send them to his house anonymously....giftwrapped. :P With a note. ''In case you run out.'' lol hugs back...talk to ya later.

#22 Dec 19 - 3AM (Reply to #4)

michele115 (not verified)

Diedre

Don't tempt me...

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